Post # 1
- Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016
This has really been bothering me for some time now and last night was particularly difficult. So I just wanted to get some others’ perspectives on it.
What do you consider a family? Do two spouses (or two unmarried indivuals who are committed to one another) count as a family? Or does a family only “start” once a child or dependant is brought into the mix? I often hear of couples “starting” their family only once they get pregnant, and it sticks in my mind.
Post # 2
- Wedding: May 2016 - Rock Island Lake Club
TwinkleBoss: I perfer to think having children is adding to your family… not starting it. To me, two committed people are a family.
Post # 3
My husband and I, are our own family. We were our own family the second we decided to get engaged and moved in together and started our own lives as a team of two. Since then we’ve added a dog, our little fur baby, and we call ourselves a family of 3. We are currently trying to have a baby, but that doesn’t make me feel any less like a family. My husband and I are each other’s number one fans’ and supporters’, we make a life together and have our own little happy home which is all I need to make it family to me. I’m sorry if you’re having a hard time, don’t let other people define what family is, that is completely up to you and your husband!
Post # 4
Yes. It’s cruel and insensitive to assume otherwise. My husband and I? We’re a family. We’re a team. We added a dog and a ferret to our family and will soon add a child, but we are definitely a family, child or not.
Post # 5
Me, my H, and our pup are a family. Whether or not we have children does not make us any more or less a family.
Post # 6
I agree with TwinkleBoss. My Mother-In-Law told me recently that Darling Husband and I don’t count as a family bc we won’t be having children and it really got me heated.
Post # 7
TwinkleBoss: I’m with PP. Once Fiance and I get married we’ll be our own family. We live together now, so we’re pretty much family now. When we have kids we’ll have a bigger family! But just because people don’t have kids doesn’t make then any less of a family.
Post # 8
We’re currently TTC, but we’re adding to our family. DH and I together are a family and were as soon as we were married. Having kids doesn’t make us a family, it just makes it bigger!
Post # 9
My husband and I and our kitten are a family!
But my “family” is my parents, sister, husband, grandparents, first cousins, and aunts. And, my soul sister! One of my greatest friends has lost her mother and lives away from her brother and father. She is an adopted member of our family and is as close to me as my sister.
Family is all those you love! There is no definition.
Post # 10
That’s really ignorant. Dh and our furbaby and I are a wonderful little family. The addition of our DS this spring will only be expanding our family, not starting it.
Post # 11
Family is what you want it to be. When I was single and had 2 roommates, we were a family. We lived together, supported eachother, loved eachother, etc. They were and still are my best friends and I consider them family. Before DS was born, Darling Husband and I were a family of 2 for years. Bottom line, family is what you make it. There is no clear definition.
Post # 12
I don’t think there are any real rules that should constitute a family, it’s what you build in your life and believe in your heart. Just last week I told my SO that I love our family, which includse the two of us and our two cats.
Post # 13
I think I’m in a state of shock that a childless couple might not be considered a family by people. That’s, honestly, really bizarre to me.
Post # 14
I absolutely believe that a couple is a family. I also believe that family is what you make it. I have friends I consider family more than family members, as other bees have said.
People who don’t have this view are allowed their own opinion, but don’t let them make you feel bad, op.
Post # 15
I’ve heard plenty of variations in my day. “Marriage or a baby makes a family” seems the most prominent. I don’t view a cohabitating couple as their own family until they’ve entered common law status (jmho).