Post # 1
I thought it might be fine to discuss how people have and will incorporate different cultural traditions into their weddings (plus I have insomnia and feel like chatting!).
We skipped a lot of the bells and whistles of traditional Taiwanese weddings, as I’m not Taiwanese and DH isn’t very traditional, plus it was his second marriage. But one thing he really wanted to do was a groom’s test. This is when the groom comes to the bride’s parents home, but she’s in a separate room. He then performs a number of tests, set by the bride’s family, before she’ll come out and proceed with the marriage rituals. These can be serious tests, or very light-hearted.
My family clearly wasn’t very familiar with this, but DH’s uncle helped them and we had a great time with it. So DH arrived at the Air BnB where most of my family was staying. When he got there, he and his groomsmen had to do things like recite tongue twisters in English, do the single ladies dance and successfully identify each donut flavor from a mixed box. There was a Skype link with one way video, so I got to watch the whole thing.
It was one of my favorite parts of the day. Watching DH and my family laughing and bonding and watching my family take part in his traditions was pretty awesome. My ILs don’t speak much English and my parents don’t speak any Mandarin, but Google translate helped and everyone was really lovely to each other.
We also did the traditional Jewish chair dance, in honour of my own heritage. No one here had ever seen that before, and they really loved it. After it was done and the DJ started taking requests, a table of DH’s cousins kept shouting “Do the chair thing again!!!” We ended up doing it three times because it made them so happy.
I’d love to hear about how other couples worked traditions from their culture or cultures into the day, and any twists you added.
(LOL, my phone keeps changing culture to vulture. If you incorporated vultures into your day, I’d love to know about that too!)
Post # 2
First line is meant to say fun, not fine! Phone is on an autocorrect roll today!
Post # 3
Sounds like ya’ll had a great time!
We had a traditional Laotian ceremony to honor my culture and afterwards, family members tied white strings around our wrists for good luck.
And to celebrate my DH’s Chinese heritage, we had a tea ceremony, martial arts performance and a lion dance.
Post # 4
This is hard. I’m not sure what traditions are just British lol.
i did want a particular welsh hymn in our service but husband wasn’t up for it so we didn’t do it 🙁
Post # 5
We had a traditional Macedonian Orthodox ceremony. We did everything. I grew up Catholic so a lot was similar but the differences were verrrrey different.
We had to wear giant crowns. Like real, huge crowns and walk around a table 3 times with our Godparents. Godparents in Orthodox culture mean a lot more than I was used to. Our rings were out on our right hands which was also something I was not used to.
We also had a pig dance at our reception. All of the bridesmaids and groomsmen bang pots and pans and carry around bottles of whiskey To the entire reception while the Macedonian band follows playing a music and a cooked pig is carried around. If you throw money on the pig you get whisky poured down your throat by a groomsmen.
It was wild.
Post # 6
My first wedding ceremony, we did a Unity Candle ceremony then did the traditional Seven Steps around the fire (candle in this case) as is done in Indian custom. I also had bridal mehndi done and wore a dress that was embroidered with Indian style designs.
my second wedding- wh – we just got married and had a party. Lol
Post # 7
We had two weddings – Western ceremony (non religious) and Hindu ceremony. The Western wedding followed a pretty standard non-religious format. I guess cultural traditions would be the white dress and ring exchange.
For the Hindu ceremony we did the malaai maatral (garland exchange), thaali kattu (tying the mangalsutra / equivalent to ring exchange), prathakshanam (walk around sacred fire), sapthapadi (7 steps / equivalent to vows), and laja homam (offering of puffed rice into the sacred fire). I also had a mehendi party the day before.
Post # 8
We added the Jewish tradition of a plain ring only given to the bride by the groom and we had a Ketubah. Since we were in Hawaii we had a Conch Shell blower walking in front of me blowing in all 4 directional the skies, a ley exchange and the the conch shell blower walked us to the ocean at the end of the ceremony. Those were all Hawaiian traditions. Also our music was traditional Hawaiian.
My husband was bummed that he missed out on the stepping on a glass but we where a) barefoot b) on a beach 🙂
Post # 9
I love this!!! My guy and I are Hispanic. We are including La Marcha De Zacatecas. I realized that this is definitely a tradition common to specific “Americanized” Mexicans as my fiancé (who is Mexican) isn’t accustomed to this dance. My parents did it at their wedding and asking someone to lead “the march” is viewed as an honorary part of the wedding party. It’s very fun in an old school kind of way. It’s meant to introduce the bridal party and culminates with the entrance of the bride and groom to which the “March” kicks off. Then slowly the remaining guests can join. We selected our venue specifically to be able to comfortably accommodate this dance. Now that I think of it, this is really the only unique tradition in our “typical” wedding.
Post # 10
What a sweet idea for a thread!
I only incorporated marriage godparents in the wedding to my ex.
My wedding to my husband had the Coin, Veil, and Cord ceremonies as well as having sponsors/godparents to celebrate my Filipino heritage. My father and brother also wore barongs tagalog while my mother wore a modern version of the Maria Clara dress. Our wedding bands have a Celtic design on them as a nod to my husband’s heritage.
Post # 11
I’m of German descent and we’ll be doing a toast with a Nuremberg Wedding Cup.