(Closed) Why dance around the ‘no guest’ subject?

posted 7 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

Because it comes off as kind of rude. Trust me, I wish I could be blunt lol, but unfortunately it usually upsets people.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Because that would be rude and it really isn’t the place on a wedding invitation to state such.

Most people know (or should know) that whomever the invitation is addressed to, that is who is invited.  I know from my own experience with RSVPs that this isn’t the case but to me, it’s common sense (or should be). 

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yeah I wouldnt put that on the actual invite

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

From a lot of posts here I’ve read, it doesnt matter HOW you put it… someone will still try.  Some bees have gone the “we have reserved xx seats in your honor” route, and that seems pretty clear, but there’s been report of guest crossing out that number and making up their own!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We didn’t put anything – we just addressed invitations to the people we wanted invited, so people in serious relationships got an invite addressed to both people (even if they didn’t live together, we put both names on the envelope).

Our initial plan was to not allow date (rather than relationship) plus ones, but then we had a bunch of friends not be able to make it and by the time anyone asked about bringing a date, we were happy to allow them.  So being a little open-ended allows you to 1) tell people personally if they don’t figure it out and 2) wait and see which sometimes solved the problem.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

It sounds easy enough in theory but actual practice is a little more messy.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@glorfin:  It’s more rude.  You don’t know the circumstances for why you weren’t invited with a guest.  Maybe it’s a very small, intimate wedding.  Maybe the couple can only afford for you to attend, not your guest that they’ve never met.

I prefer that guests be invited with a guest as well, but in all situations, that’s not possible.

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