(Closed) What details are you skipping?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 32
2852 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We’re not doing flower girls/ringbearer. We are not having a cake, so no cutting of that cake (I’m doing cakepops). We are not doing menus, programs, flower centrepieces, caketoppers, or special flutes. We are doing flowers for the bridal party, but we’re going minimalistic and only spending $350 for 4 bouquets and 8 boutonnieres. I’m also considering not doing favors – or using the cakepops as favors. We are doing an anniversary dance, a first dance, and a parents’ dance, as well as a garter and bouquet toss though. Oh, and no guestbook or DJ/band either.

Post # 33
215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We’re skipping lots of stuff…

– Father/daughter, mother/son dance (although I’m sure we’ll be dancing with them at some point, just no “formal” dance, y’know?)

– Garter and bouquet toss

– Menus (having carving stations instead, so no menus needed)

– Matching bridesmaid dresses (told them to pick their own in certain color and length)

– No favors!

– Champagne toasts

– Toasting flutes and cake cutting sets

– Head table (the venue is very oddly shaped and a table for the whole wedding party just wouldn’t fit well in the area it would be put in..plus I wanted to have the wedding party able to sit with their dates!)

– Chair covers: I HATE chair covers, especially the silky ones that make me feel like I’m sliding off the whole time.. plus, having to pay extra for them!? No thank you. 

Post # 34
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I just printed our programs tonight.  They are a must for our Episcopal wedding.  But I did them at home, and just paid around $7 for the parchment cardstock (on Amazon).  If we do menus for our family-style dinner (more to alert people of items that are gluten free or vegitarian), it will also be DIY on the same paper. 

No fancy invitations.  Ours were also print-it-yourself from a Michael’s set, and we paid a whooping $40, for very pretty invites.  We did save the dates and a guestbook, but for really cheap due to Mixbook Groupon deals.

We’re doing at outdoor ceremony (weather permitting), and we may not have any sort of decor to denote the “alter,” and no aisle runner.  We won’t be having any flower girls/ring bearers.  My BMs were welcome to pick whatever style dress they liked from a certain designer (and both picked the same, though it’s a tea-length dress and one of them is shortening it to the knee), and I’m not assigning them a shoe style (I just said silver), and they can wear whatever jewelry or hairstyle that they’d like.

No gigundo floral centerpiece (whatever flowers we have on the table will be purchased from Sam’s Club or the grocery a couple days before the wedding).  No family dances.  No bridal party dance.  No bouquet/garder toss.  No head table (just a round table with our bridal party and their spouses).

No chair covers.  We were going to skip favors, but I found a DIY idea I loved (salt dough Christmas ornament- they were fun to make, for really cheap so its no biggie if people don’t use them).  We’d have skipped champagne flutes, but we got a set for our engagement.  I was ready to skip the cake cutter, but Fiance said we should see what Michael’s has.  If they don’t have something cheap (heck, I got my veil there for less than $10), we’ll skip it.

Post # 35
292 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We’re skipping programs, menus, aisle runner, chair covers, videographer, bridal party dance, limo, and send-off.

Post # 36
836 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@JenGirl:  We’re having a homemade dessert assortment, too! Neither one of us is big on cake and I’d rather have a bunch of variety to choose from, myself. We are doing varied cake pops (for those who do like cake — plus it gives me a chance to get crafty, woot!), bitty pies, little cheesecakes. And then the food is (this may be taboo, but I don’t know and I don’t much care) going to be potluck. It’s a very small wedding in our backyard and will be rather casual. I think that bringing food to the wedding makes it more like a party and less like a sacred, untouchable event where people are afraid to make a wrong move. (I am not bashing traditional or more intricate weddings, by any means. I just always feel so nervous at weddings, thinking that there are unwritten rules that I am meant to follow but can’t because I don’t know them.)

Anyway, so the things we’re skipping:

  • traditional cake
  • anything that outlines anything else (menu, program, etc.)
  • formal toast or dance or whatever else
  • a theme

Our wedding is on October 13. It took me quite a while to come around to the idea of having one at all. I’m more of a sign some papers, slip on a ring and let everyone notice in their own time kind of girl, but one day it just hit me that I actually would like to do SOME of the “regular” stuff, so we’ll have guests and we’ll have an officiant (my brother) and we’ll have food and I’ll have a dress, but the rest is very subdued and free-flowing. Does that make any sense at all?

(The other day, I texted my fiancé and told him that we’d made a huge mistake in all of this and that we should have decided on October 31 and invited folks over for a Halloween party and then showed up as a bride and groom and have a surprise wedding. He thought that was awesome and wished we could rewind by a month and undo the invitations!) 

Post # 37
93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We are skipping…

Ring Bearer and Flower Girl- 4 year old son is co best man 🙂

Garter toss/bouquet toss

seating assignments


first dance

father daughter/mother son dance

bridal party introduction


Cake- Doing cupcakes instead


hmmm that is all I can think of at the moment but I’m sure there is more

Post # 38
914 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Goodness, we’re skipping almost everything.

Bridal party

No readings in our ceremony – just a very basic ceremony. Short and simple and to the point!

No programs

No walking down the aisle (still need to figure out what I’m going to do since there is no aisle)

No Dj

No videographer

No dancing

No seating assignments

No chairs! (well, except at the resturaunt)

No garter/bouquet toss

No limo/towncar

No centerpieces

No Ring pillow

No head table/sweetheart table (we’re ALL sitting together)

No speeches

No guestbook

Haha! That’s pretty much most everything.


ETA: no send off and no receiving line either


Post # 39
217 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

No flower girl/ring bearer

No cake topper

No wedding planner

No flowers for MOB or MOG

No recieving line

No menu

No bridal party dance


Possibly others, depending on my mood! hahah

Post # 40
387 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We are skipping

– programs

– father/daughter and mother/son dances

– cake cutting 

– bridal party (just a Maid/Matron of Honor & Bridesmaid or Best Man – best friends/witnesses)

– flower girl / ring boy / ushers

– honeymoon

– no long ceremony readings (simple 15-20 min ceremony)

Post # 41
2194 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

We didn’t have:

-Ring bearer/flower girl


-corsages for the moms



-ceremony readings

-chair covers

-garter toss

-send off

-photos during the cocktail hour

It’s funny because our wedding was still pretty traditional, even without all the tradtions.

Post # 42
366 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Wow, now that I think about it, we’re skipping almost everything too…

No rehersal dinner or next day brunch

No wedding party

No programs

No readings, prayers or anything remotely related to religion

No flowers at recepetion (bouts and my boquet only)

No sit down dinner…we’re doing a short cocktails and hors d’oeuvres reception from 8-10 pm

No table seating, menus, cake (small cutting cake and cupcakes instead)

No Wedding Party dance, bouquet/garter toss, speeches, toasting flutes, guest books, favours etc….


It will be a simple, twilight ceremony and short recpeption, emphasis is on the feeling. The venue is stunning and we’re doing tons of twinkle lights, candles etc… soft jazz music….very romantic and cozy and a smaller number of people.


Post # 44
217 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Ok, I wanted to skip the mother/son, father/daughter dance…but got some upturned noses when I mentioned this.  I noticed a lot of you have that on your list of things to skip.  May I ask why?  My only reasoning was I intend to invite my biological dad and my step dad, but it would be awkward dancing with one and not the other, but dancing with my bio dad would be awkward too, because we havent spoken for a few years.  I was just trying to avoid the situation all together, honestly (I know, kinda selfish! lol) but I don’t like to stress over stuff like that.  Ok, rant over…so, interested in hearing what you guys have to say.  I don’t want to change the topic! Just a few opinions of it so I can make my decision 🙂


Oh and I forgot:

Skipping bridal shower, I find them kinda pointless.

Post # 45
684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

No aisle

No chairs (at ceremony)

No cake topper

No real flowers (brooch and button bouquets)


No programs

No bridal party dance

No speeches

No bridal table/seating arrangements

No traditional cake (fruit cake with inch thick icing… yuk!)

Post # 46
93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@MsMarbee:  I am skipping it because I know my dad would be EXTREMELY uncomfortable. That kind of stuff is just not his cup of tea ya know. He is already having anxiety about walking me down the aisle (that is something I am not letting him out of though 🙂

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