(Closed) What details DO/DID you remember about someone else's wedding!?

posted 5 years ago in Decor
Post # 31
5219 posts
Bee Keeper

I have been to soooo many weddings in the past 5 years, but a couple of things that truly stuck out to me:


1- How cold it was inside the venue for a wedding in February. Seriously, everyone was all dressed up but then had on their ski jackets indoors!

2- Conversely, how hot it was at my friends April wedding (we live in Louisiana) and the insects that got all over everything

3- How amazing the food was at several of these weddings

Post # 32
210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Brides dress and bridesmaids – the overall look of them all together.

open bar, drinks

the atmosphere..how many people are dancing and if they play a good mixture of music.

please…no more Kenny logins  “footloose” haha ugh!!

Post # 33
1039 posts
Bumble bee

The food/drink, the entertainment, and the consideration to guests are what always make or break a wedding for me. If your food is fantastic, your DJ isn’t great but you had a photobooth, or you make me stand out in the cold/heat for a 45-60 minute ceremony, I’ll remember that vivdly. I’ll notice the dress and the decor if there’s definite “wow” factor to them, but I think the food, drink and entertainment are what stand out to a lot of guests as well as their level of comfort

Post # 34
2169 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery

I went to 6 weddings this past wedding season sooo… highlights:

1. Food served family style. Nice middle ground between buffet and plated. And you could get as much or as little of each dish as you wanted!

2. After-party snacks: lobster mac & cheese. Enough said. 

3.Bride being very accomodating and letting the guests watch the MLB playoff game (our team was playing) on the projector screen at the reception. (Note: after dinner/toasts/first dance. Only during the dance party. Got more people out there, actually!)

3. Free shuttle for guests back to the hotel where rooms were blocked.

4. Really good live band

The not-so-great:

1. No vegetarian options. At all. (=one very hungry/drunk wedding guest)

2. Not enough room in the actual reception venue = some guests sitting outside and downstairs. Very far away from the music, bar, dancing, toasts, other guests, etc. Soooo awkward. 


Post # 35
1678 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

MeandMyLouboutins:  i think i remember the venue and the food most…i don’t think i ever notice decor or details!

Post # 36
1181 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I remember:

the food

the speaches (way too long)

the photobooth

the big gap between the ceremony and reception

the distance between the ceremony and reception


Post # 37
1557 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

MeandMyLouboutins:  I’ve been to a fair share of weddings.

Notes on a few:

1. simple evening chapel wedding, column gown, cocktail & appetizer reception at an art gallery, great food, open bar, lots of fun dancing, we had to be out by 11, afterparty at the hotel

2. gorgeous catholic church wedding, country club reception, long cocktail hour, open bar, table 8, orchid center pieces, polariod guest book, some dancing, lots of long speeches between courses

3. afternoon wedding at Notre Dame, beautiful dress, reconnecting with old college friends, candy bar

4. beautiful Greek Orthodox ceremony, amazing dress, annoying photographer was getting in the way of everything during the ceremony, throwing rice outside the chapel, long ride to the reception venue, pashminas for those of us with a chill, beautiful view, decor was incredible and luxurious, race car grooms cake, turquoise favors, dancing until they kicked us out, very long ride back to the hotel

5. beautiful simple ceremony renewing vows, tight cramped cocktail hour, chilly outdoor dinner, awkward table group, best man got plastered before his speech, open bar, great dancing, I pooped out before the end of the wedding


Post # 38
992 posts
Busy bee

I went to two weddings within a couple months of getting engaged, so I really tried to remember every detail so I could think about what I did/didn’t like when planning our own wedding. Despite this, there are certain things I either don’t remember or only vaguely recall such as:

  • I remember that both brides had beautiful dresses (and both had bustles which broke), but I couldn’t give you anything more than a very vauge description of what they looked like
  • Table decor: both had some sort of flower in water (one was a floating rose, the other a submerged flower in a tall cylinder), but other than that, I don’t know if they had candles, table runners, etc.
  • Food: both had buffets. One I remember was really good, but the caterers put the food on your plate at the buffet in small portions, so almost everyone either went back for seconds or was hungry. The other, I can’t remember at all. It was food, we ate it, no complaints.

What has absolutely stuck with me and I DO clearly remember is:

  • One of the weddings had coffee, but the single urn ran out before I got any and they never refilled it. I was really disappointed because I’m not much of a night person, so without caffiene, I was ready for bed.
  • Both had open bars and guests got sloppy drunk at both…like puking outside, dancing on the tables drunk. ugh.
  • Both had really great alternative guestbooks (one was a large monogram wall-hanging that guest signed, the other involved guests signing wooden hearts and dropping into a glass display case). We thought these were neat, and way more fun to display than a traditional book.
  • The bride in one of the weddings kept leaving (I assume to use the restroom), but it seemed to take 40 minutes each time, so people were constantly asking, “where’s [bride’s name]?” the whole night
Post # 39
1581 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

In the last wedding I went to, I remember the food. It was horrible! The ‘steak’ was chewy and flavorless and the potatos weren’t cooked all the way through. The guy across from me actually spit it out into his napkin (Gross!!!) I also remember the cake though because it was really good. It was moist and the frosting wasn’t too sweet. They had a cash bar and the drinks were insanely expensive. No one knew that it was cash bar except for margaritas. So when people finally figured that out, the line to get a drink was insane. Then they ran out of margaritas and everyone left. 

My favorite wedding I’ve been to was in New York. The food was fantastic and it was a plated dessert so it had a chocolate mousse and a raspberry drizzle with the cake. Fabulous! 



Post # 40
1589 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Usually it’s the party atmosphere and the company that I remember most.

Post # 41
105 posts
Blushing bee

This question was the starting point of my own wedding planning – what do I remember from other weddings and definitely should pay attention to?

1) Dress – remember only if it’s something out of ordinary, that means about 3 dresses from 10 weddings I have been to;

2) If the day was well planned or not – we always have very long weddings (ceremony early afternoon, then some activities through the gap until dinner, “official” part until midnight and then party as much as you can, breakast next day) so it’s crucial to plan for feeding and entertaining guests. I have been to some weddings where guests are expected to participate in many activities yet no food or drinks are provided, and there is no option to even get it yourself until dinner;

3) Decors – I don’t remember decorations, flowers, chairs, colors etc. AT ALL. Therefore I was planning to have really minimal decoration in my own, but somehow get caught in Pinterest and Chinese internet shops 🙂

4) If there was good dancing and good feeling in general (it often comes together with point 2). In some weddings hosts are too worried that guests will be bored, so there are lots of activities and guests have no time to be on their own or dance – one of great things about weddings is you get to see many relatives and friends whom you don’t see often, so there has to be time and space for guests to mingle!

5) Don’t remember specific dishes, but definitely remember if there is too little food!

Post # 42
849 posts
Busy bee

We just went to a wedding last month-

1. The cake was bad- stale and dry! I always remember the cake- as long as the cake is good- that’s about all that matters! HAHA!

2. The food was good- but still typical wedding food- we were hungry after the wedding and had to hit up the drive through at 11pm! This is what lead Fiance and I to opt for having a dinner at a five star steakhouse after our ceremoney vs the typical wedding reception- we want great food that is made to order when our guests order it.

3. DJ was too loud and only played 1 slow song for everyone to dance to- the rest was all techno/dance music- very annoying.

4. Flowers were pretty, and the bride looked beauitful- but I couldn’t tell you specifics- I ususally just remember if I liked the decor and the brides look.

Post # 43
2491 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I always remember their dress, bridesmaids dresses, the food, what the cake looked like, and the music. I don’t really remember any decor, invitations, little details

Post # 44
82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I know there’s an emphasis on open bar, but sometimes I think sticking to beer and wine is beneficial. If people got sloppy drunk on liquor, I’d remember that more than the limited bar haha. We’re also doing some fun non-alcoholic options so that people may WANT to have something non-alcoholic and then not go as crazy with the alcohol because they’re alternating beverages.

Luckily, our friends are a few years post-college, so they’re more likely to act like adults instead of getting sloppy. 🙂

Post # 45
801 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

Things I remember the most:

1.  Atmosphere.  Was everyone having fun?  Did you not want to leave at the end of the night?  This is the thing I remember most.

2.  Long waits.  At a few weddings we have had to wait a long time to eat, for different reasons.  I remember if I am hungry and cannot eat.

3.  Really good or really bad food.  Everything in the middle is forgotten.


Things I do not remember:

1.  Favors.  Could not for the life of me list some of the favors we’ve received.

2.  Type of bar/alcohol offerings.  I don’t care if it’s bad etiquette, I have had great times at cash bar weddings and was bored to tears at weddings with open bars.  This also goes for top shelf vs. well alcohol.

3.  Decor.  Unless I have taken a picture of it, I can’t remember any decor or centerpieces, or ceremony flowers, or any of that stuff.  I’m sure it’s great for pictures and I will certainly have decor at my wedding, but as a guest it isn’t a requirement at all for me.

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