Post # 106
The things that I remember about the last couple of weddings that I went to stand out because they were really so different.
From the first wedding, I remember:
- The bride’s dress, because she was/is my good friend and I remember when she picked it out and how much it meant to her to have it.
- The centerpieces and table decor, because I looked at them a lot during the day.
- The treatment of the guests by staff members, assistants, bridesmaids, etc. It wasn’t top.
- The ceremony decoration
- The speeches by the best man and maid of honor.
From the second wedding, I remember:
- The bridesmaids’ dresses and flowers, they were classy. The ceremony decoration was minimal so it was easier to focus on those.
- The table decorations, because they were vintage books, camera boxes, etc.
- How the bridal party treated their guests, even the bride and groom themselves. They really made the effort to get to know the guests that they didn’t know (we were invited by the bride and had never met her husband before) and to have meaningful conversations. In the first wedding I talked about everyone seemed really rushed.
I actually just remembered I was at another wedding in the fall (whoops! It was beautiful though, but I was technically a plus one):
- I remember the ceremony location because it was simply decorated and had absolutely gorgeous mountain backdrops.
- The bride and groom each picked out their favorite cookie and guests got to pick which one they wanted to eat, right after the ceremony. They also had soda and water. It was a nice touch because the reception site was about an hour drive away.
- The reception space was a little crowded at first, but once everyone got food, drinks, and got to dancing, it settled and it was absolutely beautiful.
All of the weddings I went to were beautiful in their own ways !
Post # 107
I love everything wedding so any wedding I go to I take note!
A wedding is a time to celebrate! Dancing is a must for me. I’ve been to weddings where there’s been little/no dancing and definitely left feeling let down a bit. So a good playlist/dancing is a must for me.
I love photo booths! So much fun 🙂
Food is definitely important-but doesn’t make or break it. The last wedding I was at had some of the best food I’ve ever had at a wedding. Actually the crab cakes during cocktail hour were some of the best I’ve had…ever!
A huge part which sadly I think is over looked is the ceremony. I’m a sucker for a good reading and some sappy vows. It’s all about love isn’t it? It should be displayed throughout!
Post # 108
- Wedding: November 2015 - The Victorian
The last wedding I was at I remember: Dancing with my fiance (boyfriend at the time) all night. They had Veuve champagne and an open bar. I partook in the former and he in the latter. They had snacks at late-night, which made me happy. We were not invited to the rehearsale/welcome dinner even though we flew cross country. Other sin our “group” were invited and went. that sort of pissed me off, but it was for the best because we stayed at a beautiful bed and breakfast the night before and had a magical day and night there. Wouldn’t have changed a thing.
Post # 109
- Wedding: April 2014 - Walt Paraiso, Esterillos, Costa Rica
Yeah I’m definitely an atmosphere noticer…the lighting, the general decor – if personalized at all, the flow of the party, actually the MC or lack of one – whether it’s just sit and wait or there’s been some mention of how things will go, whether there’s any interaction with the couple or you’re just left to your table-mates.
Service/availability of food and drink are certainly important – I don’t care if the punch is self serve, just make sure it’s around! Same with coffee….I NEED my evening coffee, preferably with my dessert.
I notice the fashion – B&G, bridal party/family, other guests (I too hate to see underdressed guests!).
Post # 110
2monthweddingplanner: Actually, my wedding is in September and is fully catered, so no need to jump to conclusions.
The opinion I hold is that the people that you love, and that love you, are the ones attending your wedding. I just would never want to make another bride feel bad for having her recepetion held in a restaurant (in which people cover there own tab). Too brand a wedding “tacky” just because they do things differently is very, very rude.
Post # 111
MeandMyLouboutins: I’m sure you’ll be remembered for your positive insights on weddings. Be gracious that someone invited you to celebrate! What’s the point in being negative about someone’s dress or “mediocre” food. People are different and have different tastes. in your previous posts, you discussed the negativity you received about your dress; no need to perpetuate that energy on another bride. Focus your energy in being the best person you can be and you will shine.
Post # 112
mle812: amen sister! These comments are a bummer to read. Everyone needs to be gracious about being invited to a wedding.
Post # 113
ToppyAidan: what exactly are you referring to!? This thread is about what memories people have of others’ weddings. I didn’t give any NEGATIVE envergy to anyone nor have I stated anyone has any issues with my dress. I’m actually perplexed by your response.
Post # 114
I guess I perceive ” not caring for the brides dress” or “mediocre food” as negative. It’s not blantantly mean , but it’s not positive. if that’s your opinion, then cool. just hope your food will be off the charts yummy and you’ll rock that dress.
Post # 115
I always always always remember the food & overall atmoshphere/comfort/feel.
One of the last weddings I was at I was actually IN. While the day was great, the thing that always comes to mind is that it was a huge wedding with not enough seating. They had enough seating for less than 1/2 the guests. As a Bridesmaid or Best Man….who had been going “all day”…all I wanted to do was sit down and eat dinner. Nope. There were 2 tables (for a bridal party of 24…12 on each side) reserved for bridal party and they were FULL the entire time with random people sitting at them. I had to stand in agony at a cocktail table and scarf my food down. Despite how beautiful the wedding was, that was the main complaint I heard from people.
The other wedding I was in, was outside on one of the coldest days of the year. We as the bridal party were not dressed for the temps, despite us all begging for long dresses knowing we’d be freezing. Guests had it a little easier because they could at least bundle up – but still it’s not exactly the most considerate thing to plan a wedding outside when it’s 30 degrees and windy. That aside everything else about the wedding was great – dinner was great and so was dancing.
Post # 116
ToppyAidan: Is this for real!? anyways —–>
Post # 117
The last wedding we went to, I remember how absolutely in love the couple was. It was amazing.
Post # 118
At the last wedding I went to, they didn’t do a first look, which is fine if you plan ahead and consider your guests. But the guests in this situation were hanging around awkwardly for about an hour and a half while they did group pictures outside. No food, drinks, or music.
The ceremony was cute, but from then on it was clear that they didn’t understand that a reception was meant for thanking the guests. I honestly don’t remember any details because I was just waiting until I could leave and not look rude.
I know this one was kind of harsh, but it’s the truth.
Post # 119
- Wedding: June 2015 - UC Botanic Garden, Berkeley, CA
As a guest, I notice when more care was given to details that only affect/are important to the bride/groom. I was at a wedding recently where there was a champagne toast, but only for the bride and groom. The couple had a cash bar at the wedding, so it was really awkward to toast their champagne with our water. I know alcohol is expensive, but if you’re going to do a champagne toast, you could buy a few bottles of inexpensive prosecco, have it passed, and no one would know the difference!
I do notice how personal the ceremony is, and how personal the speeches our, with heartfelt declarations being much preferred over “I know the groom, and don’t really know the bride, but good luck!” (Awkward!) I love to see a beautiful venue, but notice the natural surroundings way more than the small decor items. I prefer outdoor venues, but if an indoor venue really fits the couple ad their personalities, I like that too!
Overall: I like weddings that a personal and reflect the couple while keeping in mind that they are hosting their closest friends and family, who are all there to support them.
Post # 120
The last few weddings I’ve been to (excluding my own):
– Church was beautiful. Wound up having to pay for parking because it didn’t have enough space in the lot but I will not begrudge $2.00 in quarters for a friend.
-the bride’s dress was really pretty but she wore a lace shrug with it that was heinous and didn’t match at all. Wondering if she had to cover her shoulders to fulfill church requirements?
-Her bouquet was beautiful, though not my style (It was a cascade which isn’t my thing).
-I liked the centerpieces, even though they were very simple (alstromeria in mason jars with ribbon)
-The flower girls were adorable and I loved their dresses.
-They didn’t do a seating chart so in order to not sit at the same table as my ex, we wound up with complete strangers. It worked out fine and we had a great conversation.
-the food was great but the line took FOREVER because there was only one line for the buffet. -the speeches were great.
-the couple did more of the decor themselves it it turned out cute. THe table cloths were really pretty but my inner snob hated that they were plastic. so many personal touches.
-they had a private ceremony that they showed pictures/a video of at the reception.
-They had a limited bar which they had supplied with a number of batch mixed drinks. They were tasty, not that I indulged much as the hotel they had a block at/provided a shuttle to and from was outside of the budget (since I cared more about giving them a nice gift than a great hotel room)
-the food was ok. It wasn’t great but it was edible. For both of these weddings, I cared a lot more about being able to celebrate with my friends, not about whether the wedding was “good” or not.