Post # 1
For me, recently it has been the crap that I put up with from people in my life who like to remind me that my life is way better than I deserve. I married a man that is ten years older than me and who saved me from self destructing. I had always put up with their comments about my life, ering, new car, the fact that I don’t have to work, etc. You name it, I got backhanded and ugly comments about how I don’t deserve it. I recently got feedback from some bees that I need to stop putting up with people and their mean jealousy.
This morning I got one of those comments and for the first time I said “You know, we have a great life and I will forever be grateful to Darling Husband and to God for the blessings in my life, but I refuse to apoligize for being happy. We have all had periods in our lives that we are less than proud of and I am done hearing about mine. My life is not open for your critique and if you can accept that then we will be fine, but I am not going to justify myself to you anymore.”
I feel SO FREE. It was so liberating to just let myself off the hook instead of trying to justify my life. Thank you
Post # 3
That’s awesome!! Don’t justify…everyone has good and difficult parts of their lives…you may have some good, but I’m sure you have your fair share of struggles, too, so it is unfair for others to judge or make you feel guilty.
This site has helped me with wedding planning and seeing that I’m not the only bride to go through family drama, etc.
Post # 4
@PeaceLoveLaughter: Thanks. It seems so obvious, after hearing over and over again that I don’t need to feel like I should just take it.
You are right about the family drama. Everyone has at least one “drama limb” in their family tree. It is nice to hear that we aren’t the only ones.
Post # 5
That’s a great point and a good story. I am happy you found peace. Wedding bee has partly helped me through a lot of in law crap, some of the women here have given me confidence to move forward and not feel guilty about cutting out genuinely toxic family members and moving on to a happy, drama-free life without them. Sometimes I will get fishy contact from them and will post it here if I smell a rat, it helps to have unbiased people wading through the emails and calls and calling it as they see it. It really does help to have outside opinions at times.
Post # 6
Everyone understanding the stress and unrealistic expectations!
Post # 7
It’s helped me feel really REALLY old.
I swear I have to be one of the oldest women here.
Post # 8
@GroovyHippieChick: I am 33, can you top that?
Post # 9
I think it helps the most when I can’t sleep and feel crappy. It is a nice distraction that doesn’t make me think (or think much) about what is bad at that time. Plus, my wedding and marriage plans make me so happy.
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Post # 11
Firstly, it’s definitely made me appreciate Fiance more. Not that I ever took him for granted, but it’s just a constant reminder of how much he means to me, and I love that!
Also, it’s made me realize my problems aren’t that big and things could be worse and most (if not all) brides flip out about things like I do! When I’m worred over picking BM’s shoe colors and someone else has a death in their family, it’s humbling.