(Closed) What did you ask your MOH to do during your engagement?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I don’t think I’ve asked my Maid/Matron of Honor to do anything besides buy a dress and show up on time for the rehearsal and wedding. She offered to throw a shower and bachelorette, so she is coordinating those. (with the help of my mom and the other bridesmaids for the shower and bachelorette, respectively). She is non-local though so I guess that makes a difference. 

For my one local Bridesmaid or Best Man I asked her to come over twice to help me craft, and I asked her to go shopping for Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses with me. 

Thats basically it… I don’t really like the idea of putting people to work so I figure if I can’t do it myself, I just won’t do it. 🙂

Post # 5
514 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Personally, you could ask her to come along to appointments or come over to help you with a project but I just wouldn’t give her a list of things to go off and do because I don’t want my Maid/Matron of Honor to ever feel like an employee and also, I don’t want to leave decisions in anyone’s hand.

Post # 6
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I havent asked my moh to do much except buy her wedding day outfit and help me with my Bridesmaid or Best Man choices. I will only really “utilize” her on the wedding day and the day before.

Post # 8
459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I did not ask my Maid/Matron of Honor to do much of anything, besides wear a dress (of her choice) and show up to the wedding. A different friend who was not my Maid/Matron of Honor (or a bridesmaid, did not have any other than the MOH) went out of her way to throw me a mini bachelorette party, but I actually asked my Maid/Matron of Honor explicitly to NOT throw me a bachelorette, because she lives across the country and I did not want to do a bachelorette in the days leading up the wedding when she would likely be in town. On the wedding weekend, I did ask her to do a few small things (like pick up food for our day-after brunch). I generally did not want to put her to work, though, especially since I don’t think she is the kind of person who likes doing wedding-related stuff.

Post # 9
2090 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

All I asked was for her to be at the wedding, and wear the dress I picked out (paid half the cost of), and black heels of her choice.

My Maid/Matron of Honor lives 2k miles away from me though, so logistically, it wouldn’t really have worked out to have her help me with DIY projects. Even if she lived closer, she has a toddler and gave birth to her second child 3 months before my wedding, so she had her plate full already and I wouldn’t have been comfortable asking her to take time out to help me make place cards or porgrams. 

Post # 10
259 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

maybe try asking her for advice, or just keeping her up to date with your decisions? I think once my Maid/Matron of Honor threw my bachelorette and my bridal shower, she realized how much time/money/work she had to put into those, and I was glad I hadn’t asked her to do much else.

Post # 11
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I had 2 MOH’s and up until the wedding day the only thing I ‘asked’ of them was to support me mostly via email. So I would write to them stressed out about some drama or a decision I was having trouble making and they would support me or give advice.

For the wedding I just asked that they be on time for the rehearsal and for getting ready on the wedding day which they were. I also highly encouraged them to wear their hair in an updo since it was about 90 degrees outside and that’s what I was doing.

Post # 12
1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I have’t asked her to do anything but she is doing a lot. She is throwing our Engagement party. She is making sure that the girls are on time to dress fittings. And she is handling the craziness of 6 women! LOL!!!!!!!!

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