(Closed) What did you do?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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9483 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would just tell him straight up.  Say you and your aunt were discussing how things are going for you two and she happened to offer your great grandmother’s ring for him to use when ready.

OR

You can contact your aunt and have her tell him.  =)

Post # 5
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746 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I would ask your aunt to hit him up on either facebook or text him.  Have her be the one to suggest it!

 

or if she lives close by and you guys have dinner together, ask her to suggest it to him when you slip away to the bathroom.  Let it be him to decide to purchase one or to use an heirloom.  I’m sure family approval is important to you both, and that would be reassuring. 

Post # 6
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696 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

just throw it into the conversation next time you two are discussing marriage. It can be a very light-hearted “oh, by the way just so you know my aunt has offered us my great grandmothers ring so you if you want to use that when the time comes you have that option”

Doesnt have to be said in a hint hint kinda way to make him feel pressured, just like information he might be interested in.

Post # 7
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1013 posts
Bumble bee

Tell him straight up and give him your aunts contact information. If he wants to get it he can, but to keep it a surprise try to stay out of their actual discussion. 

It could be that he wants to get you a new ring though. 

Post # 8
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2981 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I like the idea of having the aunt contact him with the info!

Post # 10
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746 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Can you borrow it from your aunt to show him one day?  See his reaction, tell him your aunt said she’s keeping it in a safety deposit box till you’re ready, but that because you guys are moving in together she didn’t know if you wanted it now.  Tell your SO that she is pushy and you don’t want her thinking you guys aren’t serious, but that you’ll return it to her to put in the deposit box for now so you won’t loose it since you’re just moving.

 

All good excuses

Post # 11
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1425 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

If I were in this situation, I’d ask my Aunt how she would feel about contacting my SO. I would feel awkward informing my SO that my Aunt has a ring. I wouldn’t want him to feel pressured or that my family is orchestrating something.

Post # 12
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218 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would just tell him, straight up.  My fiance and I talked openly about the ring before he proposed.  I think men are generally pretty nervous about getting one we’ll like, so the more info he has available to him, the better.  Might as well just open the lines of communication about it, in case he is worried or wondering what to do.

Post # 13
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726 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Make sure you actually see the ring before you bring it up to him. Just because it “sounds” beautiful doesn’t mean you’d actually like it. And then you’d be back here trying to figure out how to get a new ring because you don’t like your great grandmother’s ring haha.

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