Post # 1
I’ve never been to a rehearsal dinner, but somehow knew that they were common and kind of expected. So I’ve been planning one, however, one day my mom asked “What’s the point of a rehearsal dinner? Is that where you practice how you’re gonna walk?” In our case, that would be a no, since we’re going to practice at our actual venue.
So my question is what did you do/are planning to do at your rehearsal dinner? Besides eat, obviously. Did people make toasts? Play games? I’m just curious what usually goes down 🙂
Post # 2
The rehearsal dinner comes after/before the rehearsal, so usually the bridal party and close family attend (though more and more these days, invirations are being extended to all out-of-town guests, but this isn’t necessary–only the people attending the rehearsal, and their dates, need come). The dinner serves as another way to spend time together during a hectic weekend, and hosting a meal is a way to thank the invited guests for their contributions to your wedding. If you are giving bridal party gifts, the dinner is a good time to pass them out.
Typically, in my part of the USA, the groom’s parents host the dinner and offer toasts to the couple’s happiness, while the couple toasts the bridal party. It can be as casual as you like–no need for stylized entertainment like games, though I am sure some bees have good ones to share. In my experience, people usually sit around and chat.
Post # 3
We did the following the day before the wedding:
- Had a quick rehearsal (actual rehearsal of the ceremony)
- Went to a nice restaurant across the street from the hotel, where we had a cocktail party for all of the out of town guests
- Just our families went to a special dinner after the cocktail party (at a place we go to for birthdays/special occasions) and had a lovely dinner together. My husbands dad gave a toast, but other than that we just enjoyed being together before the wedding.
The “rehearsal dinner” actually turned out to be a moderatly complex thing to plan. I have seen it done many different ways, but I think the main thing is to spend time with people who are important to you (family, friends, out of town guests) the night before the wedding. Other than that I think you have a lot of leeway with what you decide to do!
Post # 4
at our rehearsal, it was the bride, groom, bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girls and my mother. it took about 10-15 minutes. i showed everyone the order in which they would walk in, where to stand and how to leave.
we went over it a few times.
the rehearsal was those mentioned above, our immediate families, other relatives both in town and out of town, and some other special friends (about 40 people in all). i was only having the Maid/Matron of Honor and best man give speeches at the wedding, so others in our wedding party were able to give speeches. we also gave our wedding party gifts.
Darling Husband made a slide show that had some pictures of our growing up and pictures of our life together so far. then after we ate, everyone mingled.
Post # 5
Raine90: People eat, visit, and the wedding part members receive their gifts.
Post # 6
Raine90: Our rehearsal was at a nice pub near the venue. We invited all wedding party/wedding contributors, and their dates, plus the parents, and a few out-of-town family we are close too, and wanted more intimate time with as well. Total guest count was 35.
We drank, we ate, we made introductions of our nearest and dearest to one another. The father’s each gave a toast, and then we (my Darling Husband and myself) gave a toast, and then we distributed our gifts. We got each Bridesmaid or Best Man and Groomsmen something, and our parents something as well.
It was a lovely evening all the way around, and at the end, my Fiance and I scurried away for a few final moments of alone time before we saw each other the next day at the altar!
Post # 7
Thanks ladies! The rehearsal dinner sounds like a great time to give everyone their gifts…can’t wait to see their faces. I’m excited for a lovely evening in celebration of our wedding!