Post # 1
My girls are asking me what I want to do for my bachelorette party and I just have no idea!
I’m not a club/loud/casino/crazy type of person, but I do like to drink! 🙂 I live near NYC but have no interest in it and find going there a hassle. Plus I’m 31 so the booze cruise ship has sailed. These days, I much rather prefer to relax!
The thing is, if I answered them honestly, it would be maybe a wine tasting day or something subdued like that from where we live that would require going somewhere overnight, and one of my BM’s has an 8 month old – I don’t want to ostracize anyone or put them out of money. My Maid/Matron of Honor has quite a bit of money and is single, so she’s up for any and everything! I just know from when FI’s best friend got married, he was pushed out of the bachelor party b/c it was something out of “The Hangover” and he just lost his job, so an overnight trip to Atlantic City was not feasible. I don’t want to financially strain anyone.
So ladies, what did you do for your bachelorette? I would love some ideas or inspiration! If it helps, I’m in the NY/NJ/PA area.
Post # 2
BurlapnLace: I didn’t want a bachelorette party, but my girls decided that we would go out to a nice dinner together while I was out visiting them (they live in CA where I’m originally from). My husband and I decided to do a joint thing and had a really nice game night together.
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Cmsatx2014: There was a groupon for one in NYC but neither of my girls seemed interested. That looks like so much fun!! I need to have mine a month or 2 before the wedding so I can eat/drink whatever I want and have time to work off the bloat!!
housebee: We considered that too but since 2 of my FI’s groomsmen are in Dallas (where he lived for 5 years) they’re flying him down for a weekend then when he’s back, he and his other groomsman are going to a Yankee game or something. Interestingly, the local “Yankee” groomsman is the one who was thrown the bachelor party Fiance couldn’t attend, so he wants to make sure he’s included for sure. His wife is also my Bridesmaid or Best Man with the baby, so an overnight wouldn’t work for him either!
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
We did a coed weekend camping trip with a bunch of friends at a nearby river / reservoir. BBQ, cornhole, day drinking, swimming… good times. Some of our friends have kids too and the kids came along.
Maybe a spa day? Or does your area have placed with rooftop pools where you can pay to lounge for a day?
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I didn’t want anything to wild and crazy so my girls planned an evening of painting and drinking! We went to a local studio that teaches you how to paint and while you’re all sitting and painting you also drink from the full service bar! They had music going and it was a great time. Plus we all got to take home our art when we were done. It was about $30/pp plus whatever drinks people wanted. None of us consider ourselves artistic but we all came away really happy with how things turned out and wanting to go back for more.
After that me and just the bridesmaids hit a local bar with a dance floor and DJ. It was a really fun time. They gave us our first round of drinks for free and we danced all night!
Overall I would say we spent around $40-50/pp. My Matron of Honor paid for me at the art studio and lots of people were buying me drinks all night but I really didn’t drink that heavily.
This is not us, but is a photo from the studio we went to…they also take a group photo of everyone in your group when you’re done and post it online for everyone. So fun.
Post # 7
We went down to OBX and stayed in a beach house for the weekend. While it was fun, I would have rathered had a more “traditional” going out/partying/Atlantic City type bachelorette but all my friends were extremely limited on funds and my Maid/Matron of Honor had a 3 month old baby so that was out of the question.
Post # 8
I’m going to a Bachelorette this Saturday, the bride lives in NYC. The Maid/Matron of Honor organized a wine tasting / vineyard tour, with a limo picking everyone up from a designated spot in the city, and dropping everyone off the night before. I don’t live there, so I’m staying at a friend’s. The vineyards are in Long Island. That sounds like it may work for you. Not sure how much cost the Maid/Matron of Honor is eating, but I’m paying around $150 and that includes lunch. Separate hosted bridal shower on Sunday.
Post # 9
For my cousin’s a few years ago, we did a vineyard tour in eastern PA and then had dinner at a sushi place later that night (followed by hanging out at her house in PJs with some drinks and cake). It was hands down the most fun bachelorette I’ve ever been to! The tours are free and you get samples. At the last vineyard, we brought cheese and crackers and bought a few bottles of wine (we bought wine at every vineyard) and sat outside watching the sunset with the owner. It was wonderful!
For mine a few weeks ago, we went to Baltimore. It was a lot of fun, especially because all of my friends are scattered all over the eastern US. We rented a pedal bike (you pedal, the owner steers) and they take you on a bar crawl. It was SO much fun and my abs hurt from laughing, but the next day my head and wallet were hurting.
Post # 10
I’m a very low-key, mellow person, and the club scene isn’t my cup of tea. I also had a 6 month old baby when my girls did my bachelor party (and my Maid/Matron of Honor had a 4 month old) so I wasn’t up for an overnight shin-dig either.
For me, what they planned was perfect! They took me to the city to the dinner-theatre. The food was really yummy, and the theatre was hilarious and so much fun! It was perfect. We were all able to head home at the end of the night to be with our kiddos. It was a lot of fun, suited me perfect, and was something Darling Husband would never want to do, so it was really nice and affordable for everyone!
Post # 11
BurlapnLace: I didn’t want to do anything crazy either. I’m so over the bar scene myself! I already feel bad as to how much this wedding is costing so I wanted to do something as cheap as possible but all the girls insisted that we do something. They all agreed to do dinner and get a hotel room to spend the night in and have fun. If anyone needs to leave they can at any point in the night (few of my girls can’t stay as they have kids). We tried to plan a spa day but the packages were crazy expensive and they still wanted to do dinner and drinks so we opted to not do that.
A few ideas that were thrown around were: Spa Day, Bowling, Going out drinking at low key bars, baseball game, Dinner, Movies, Strip club, Pottery Painting, Sightseeing boat tour (this thing around our city), Camping
Post # 12
I’m a big proponent on things found off groupon and living social as well, so I’ll see what they have available 🙂 Thanks, ladies!
(basically I just want to get drunk and laugh, and can’t you do that anywhere??)
Post # 13
BurlapnLace: I haven’t had my bachelorette yet but I know what they have planned. I’m also not a loud club/bar kind of person so that was my one request. They have planned a dinner at a nice restaurant followed by a pottery painting place. The pottery place is opening after hours for us and we have the whole place to ourselves the entire evening (no cost to rent, everyone just has to purchase a piece that’s at least $25). We are allowed to bring in our own food/alcohol. They also booked a mobile spa that will be coming to the pottery place to do mani’s/pedi’s/facials. I’m so excited to drink and have fun with my friends in a relaxed environment!
Post # 14
We had 18 girls in a 2 bedroom apartment and lots of food and drinks to last the whole night. My ‘organizer’ had 2 people who came in and set up a ‘mani-pedi’ station and a massage station. We just ate, drank, talked and laughed while waiting for our turns at the pampering stations. The mani/pedi were $15 each and massage was $10 for 15 minutes so much cheaper than a day spa. And this way we could mingle and be free. There were also DIY face masks. We did end the night with a ‘fireman’ or two dropping in for a surprise visit 😉
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NickysGirl14: oh hey! Mine was very similar to yours. Your pottery place sounds cool. All the girls really enjoyed the set-up of the mobile pampering at mine 🙂