What did you do to make your wedding reflect your/your partner's personality?

posted 5 months ago in Decor
Post # 2
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2020 - City, State

I’m not married or even engaged yet….currently waiting on a proposal. However, I have thought about everything in a lot of detail. We have even picked out a venue that we like that has a rustic feel. The one way I want to incorporate personalities and meaning into our wedding is to have red roses and tree stumps. I would even like for his cake to be in the shape of a tree stump. It has to do with a nickname that he has. Red roses goes back to when we were younger and the first flowers he got me was a 1/2 dozen of those. 

I’m sure you can find things that have meaning to you and that you can incorporate! 

Post # 3
458 posts
Helper bee

One thing we’re going to do is take pictures of our dog with a flower collar on and edit it with a table number. That’ll be our table numbers for every table. We absolutely love our dog and he can’t be there so this is a compromise!!

Post # 5
728 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

We are putting a lot of “geeky” touches in our wedding to help make it feel like “us” πŸ™‚

– I am walking down the aisle to “Tale as Old as Time” from Beauty and the Beast

– We ate writing our own vows, and mine include some references to movies and TV shows we love

– We are into tabletop roleplaying games (think like Dungeons and Dragons) so our seating chart is a d&d grid map with little figurines of wizards and knights, etc to represent the guests (with their names attached!)

– Our favors are custom dice (again, since we love gaming!)

– Our centerpieces are inspired by Beauty and the Beast (my favorite movie, but the centerpieces were actually his idea!)

-Our cake topper is custom made. It has Belle holding a wand as the bride (since I love BatB and Harry Potter) and the groom is the Reverse Flash holding a lightsaber (my fiance’s fave villain, and he loves Star Wars!)

I have some pics for reference too! πŸ™‚

Our favors:

Here is a prototype of our centerpieces (we are going to have smaller roses and more stones in the final product)

And here is our cake topper!

Post # 6
2218 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

emmzsea :  I think most of the personality is going to show up in the ceremony itself. 

We are having my best friend officiate. She got ordained in the Church of the Big Lebowski. She’s a Dudist Priest. For our rehearsal dinner, we’re going to a Big Lebowski themed bowling alley for pizza and artisan White Russians.

I wrote the entire script for the ceremony and vows. It’s playful and literary and has some in-jokes. We’re having our dog act as our ring bearer. 

Also, the fact we’re having a destination wedding is pretty reflective of us as well. We are both quite adventurous and travel has been a pretty strong theme in our relationship. When he asked me to marry him, he asked me if I wanted to keep having adventures together for the rest of our lives. 

We chose a destination with tons of outdoor activities in one of the most stunning landscapes I’ve ever seen. I’m likening the wedding trip to a long weekend sleepover where we also get married.

I think it can be overwhelming to make so many decisions for a lot of people. They might not know how to reflect their personalities without it seeming cheesy or campy. 

In my case, I’m doing it to amuse myself as much as anything else. If other people dig it too, so much the better. 


Post # 7
316 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

I love that you want to find ways to make it personal, I think weddings feel so much more special that way! Fiance and I originally were planning to have our wedding in this forest where we love to camp, and at that point were planning on everything down to the food being things that were entirely personal to us. But that plan became too expensive and impossibly stressful to pull off, so we had to change venues. We no longer have the option to customize the food as much as we wanted, but we still found a really fun, “us” venue- the rainforest building of a zoo we both like! It’s a really fun and unique setting (there are open animal exhibits that can be strolled during cocktail hour, and dinner takes place in a room where the exhibits rainstorm every 15 minutes), and since we are playful and whimsical people it suits us really well. Part of our proposal was even at the zoo, so it tied it wonderfully πŸ™‚ (plus it’s a highly accredited zoo known for their excellent animal care, veternary advances, and conservation efforts, so we feel good about supporting them). we’re using our favorite colors in a fun pallette, and tying in all sorts of little details. We’re going to take pictures in a forest behind my parents house for our “first look” and such, so we’ll still get our woodland feel before heading to our jungle wedding haha (we’re also doing our honeymoon at a nice lodge at the forest where we wanted our wedding). Fiance and my dad are making a crescent moon photobooth, like they used to have at old-timey parties, and setting out our instax cameras for people to take the pics. We are incorporating gold bee motifs throughout, including with pins in my hair and his cuff links, and the wax seels on our invites, because I am a beekeeper, and the favors are mini jars of honey. There will also be a little basket of personalized packets of wildflower seeds that people can take to help support bees πŸ™‚ and we’re doing an extra late-night favor for those who stay to the end to take on their way out (because the venue wont let us do food favors that people open and eat there), personalized boxes of animal crackers haha. Our friend is officiating (originally, we wanted to try to get one of my favorite authors to do it, as my fiance proposed with an amazingly elaborate proposal based off one of his series, but unfortunately the author is unable to attend though I did get ahold of him and he offered his congratulations which are now being framed haha!). I am making my veil out of a fabric embroidered with colorful flowers and vines. We have chosen most of the music based on our personal tastes, including starting off the dancing with a “doo-wop hour”! And our good friend is playing live ceremony music for us (we’re paying him, of course) which are all songs that have significance to us. Additionally, our decor will have some nods to the zoo/jungle theme but not to the point of feeling like a kids birthday party haha, as well as signs with quotes we love and such. We’re also doing a few special touches to honor his grandmother and my grandfather who both passed last year, just a vase of her favorite flowers at the family table for her, and pinning my granfather’s pin to the inside of my dress, although I suppose those are more private personal touches. Oh and we’re doing multiple cakes from a bakery that’s an old favorite of his family, since they don’t do wedding cakes. I think that about covers the things we’re doing to make it feel like “us”.

Post # 8
316 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

Oh, we’re creating/writing our own ceremony too.

It’s just really important to us that we don’t just feel like we’re “dropping in” to a generic wedding as you said, or just going through motions and following a script. We want it to feel like the most “us” day ever πŸ™‚ 

Post # 11
790 posts
Busy bee

I totally get what you mean about weddings feeling generic. I don’t really like most weddings, and I feel that the best ones are those that show personality. All of these weddings sound great!

My SO and I met in Japan, and we spent a long time living there and traveling to other places. My engagement ring (getting made now) has a cherry blossom on it, we are traveling to Japan and having pre-wedding photos and then heading to Thailand to get married on the beach. When we return, we are having a reception where we will do a sake ceremony. We are thinking about having catered woodfired pizzas and salad, soft pretzel bar, self-made cupcakes (I usually bake for family events), and hopefully a coffee and mulled wine bar. I am looking into getting a Japanese drumming group to perform, and I want karaoke there. 

Honestly, I think if I had a regular wedding, everyone would be disappointed. It’s just not me. 

Post # 14
2853 posts
Sugar bee

I think just the fact that it was laid back and fun-focused reflected our personalities. Being overly detail oriented with things like decor in itself wouldn’t be very ‘us’.

Our focus was on good food, drink, and having a good time – which IS very us. We also had kind of unique music choices and skipped a lot of traditional things and my hair was lavender? Does that count?


Post # 15
790 posts
Busy bee

emmzsea :  Thank you! Japan feels more like a home to me than America does, sometimes. I miss it terribly. I can’t wait for my ring to be done! Hopefully any day now!

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