(Closed) what did you do with your EX's gifts when it was over?

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Um… I have no ex.  I am going to marry the only man I ever loved, the only one I ever kissed, the father of my child.  At my 25 years of age I don’t think I would have kept any of my teenage ex things (if I had them).  But I can say that I know for a fact that he has kept some gifts from his ex and I really don’t mind.  She had good taste, she was a nice person (to everyone but me) and they were a couple for a while so it’s only natural that some stuff remained.  Now, if they still spoke, I would NOT be ok with him keeping stuff.

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I was given this really ugly italian gold neclace by an ex.  I layed it under his alarm clock before I left the place.  I really didn’t want it or anything to do with the relationship, I figured he could give it to the next gf or pawn it, when he found it.

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I pretty much kept everything that I liked that someone gave me.  Even if the relationship ended badly but I liked the item, there were still good memories there and if it was given for the right reasons.  I’ve been pretty lucky (and never put up with bs so relationships were usually good, whatever reason they ended for).  I was given flowers once that I gave to someone else with in half an hour of receiving (full disclosure to them) but that’s a long story.

My ex husband on the other hand… I left most of our pics and his letters and such in a box in the kitchen when I moved out.  I kept a few pics but didn’t want more than that.  For the ering and wedding ring I asked if he wanted, he didn’t, so I sold it on ebay (for what he paid for it … go me) and bought a necklace I still love (YEARS later).  It’s something I never would have bought myself with “my own” money cause I’m a cheapskate, but to me that was free money.  It’s hard to explain, it was like getting a prize for putting up with his crazy (literally crazy after a couple years into marriage, meds crazy and won’t take them type crazy, another long story) lol, but on a serious note it represented freedom and showing myself I was worth spoiling a little. 🙂  For a long time though it’s just been a necklace I like, only rarely, like now, do I think of WHY I bought it.

Post # 20
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Other than Fi I have only had 1 real relationship and it was BAD I threw some of the stuff at him as I was leaving and the rest (the pictures, stuffed animals, ect) made a really good bon fire… 

and it was just after that song from Taylor swift came out Just another picture to burn so I played that while I burned it all! lol

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@MsPanda:  The song refernce made me laugh.  Jo Dee Mesina’s song “My Give A Damn’s Busted” came out less than a year after the divorce… how I wish it was out sooner, lol.  He gave me the divorce papers and started asking about this pc problem he was having (he’d reconciled once before trying to salvage I told him, you can leave now as friends but if we go at this again and you screw it up I’m not going to want to talk to you about anything except legal matters).  How I would have loved to say “my give a damn is busted”… instead I just held up the papers and said you wanted this, you lost your partner, your love, your mate, your computer support… call the pc company or store tech line.

Post # 22
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Sugar bee

I still have the jewelry from my high school sweet heart.

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My ex bf was pretty heavy handed with the gifts to make up for his cheating way. I was with him for two years and I always thought he was devoted until the day I broke up with him was the day.. (never mind, long friggen story) anyway, he always gave me his credit card and I still had it the day we split. I bought myself a pair of jimmychoos. Called him and told him and he said “yeah i deserved that” I also kept the engagement ring he gave me and all the necklaces, jewellry.They are worth a pretty penny. I have kept the photos and letters but there in a box.. well I dont know where.

Since we broke up about 6 years ago, all the hard feelings are gone and he actually came to my wedding with his wife and we are good friends. I tried to give it all back but he wouldnt have it.

So Im going to keep it for a rainy day and sell em!

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

the only piece of jewellry my ex gave me was a necklace with two hearts on it, i still have and still wear this, only because it was my first mothers day gift, the two hearts were to symbolise me and my son. so i suppose i could say it was from my son but he was only 8 months old at the time 🙂 

Post # 25
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

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@This Time Round:  I really like that. 

Post # 26
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

When me and my ex split, I took it to one of those selling gold places. It was December when he left just after Christmas so I left all the Christmas gifts outside along with his stuff. He collected it.

Post # 27
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

I destroyed them, including the bracelets, i gave one of the toys an ex gave me to my dogs (one of whom was a youngster – about one year old – at the time)

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I never got any really valuable stuff because we were both in high school LOL! But what he did give me I kept in a box. However, once my Fiance and I decided to move in together, I threw it all away. It was hard and a part of me didn’t want to throw it away, but I literally told my self “you just have to let go” and into a trash bag it went.

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I only have cheap stuff from my high school boyfriend- in terms of jewelry, a pair of Celtic knot silver earrings from his trip to England about 2 months before I dumped him. I was never really into him, so when I see the earrings, I usually think “These match that bracelet. Do they go with my dress?” I’ve mixed them up with my other Celtic earrings… Pretty sure I know which are from him, I think..

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

oh that’s easy. i never got anything from my ex. even on valentine’s day… he told me he couldn’t afford to even exchange cards (though i still got him one) and then the next week he was showing off the brand new mp3 player he had just gotten.

Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

My ex jewelry is beautiful, and I still wear the pieces sometimes! (Tiffany earrings, bracelet, necklace) 

He’s not in my mind when I wear them; I just wear them for the sole reason that it would be a shame not to!  Haha.. Everything is in my jewelry box!

Here’s something weird though.. One time I found a necklace my ex had given me, and it was so pretty I had to put it on.  The very next day, I saw him in front of me in the line at a random McDonald’s… Very strange coincidence indeed.

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