Post # 1
DH and I are trying to financially plan to TTC, and we want to get an idea for how many baby items we will buy vs. gifts. Any gift would be much appreciated, I’m just trying to get an idea for what we’ll need to spend up front. What items did you/ have you purchased up front and which were gifted? Thanks:)
Post # 3
Smart post! I’ll be checking back to see people’s answers. I don’t have kids but from what I’ve seem with sister in law and friends is parents sometimes (or often) buy a bigger ticket item like a stroller, crib or carseat, then possibly sister or brothers with another bigger item like a play yard/pack and play and then mostly clothes and small accessories/ bathing/ health/ feeding items from friends and baby shower attendees.
Post # 4
I bought most everything myself before my shower because I didn’t like the idea of having people fund my choice to have a child. I mostly received non essentials for gifts: additional clothes, books, baby wash, diapers, toys, swing, PnP, etc. Honestly, I would budget for all the essentials yourself & then if you receive them as a gift instead, it will be a bonus.
Post # 5
We recieved all of the “big” items (car seat, crib, stroller) at the baby shower and some non-essentials (extra clothes, hats, blankets, stuffed animals). So that left us to buy alot of the essential little (aka, boring shower gift) things like: bathtub, first aid kit, diapers, wipes, theromemter, swaddle cloths, sheets, etc.
Post # 6
I think it really depends on your friends/family. The only gift we received was the crib/mattress from my parents. No shower or help from DH’s family. We did great with budgeting and kept baby expenses to around $400 for everything else!
Post # 7
I think it depends on where you live/type of crowd. I haven’t had a baby, but every woman I know who has had one has gotten almost everything she registered for (including big items). People here usually give baby clothes, toys, and blankets in addition to their “real” gift (high chair, bath tub, stroller, play mat, etc), plus they put things like diapers, wipes, and shampoo into the wishing well (in other words, each guest’s gift is usually at least 3 gifts (for example, bath tub+outfit+wipes)). However, I have noticed that friends who live in other parts of the country usually don’t get many “big” gifts, and their guests tend to just bring baby clothes and stuff.
So yeah…If I have kids, I can safely assume I will be given almost everything I need, because that’s the norm for my area and social circle. That may not be the case for you, so you might want to look at what has been done in your family/what your friends have experienced/etc.
Post # 8
We haven’t had our baby shower yet, but we need pretty much everything except for furniture. So we registered for a lot of stuff. We figured whatever we don’t get, we’ll get 20% off after the shower and run out and buy. The one thing we did buy for ourselves is our BOB stroller. We felt pretty crappy about putting a $400 stroller on a registry, so it was our treat to ourselves!
Post # 9
I’m interested to see responses on this 🙂 We are currently budgeting out our baby needs, and although I would prefer to buy everything ourselves as we can afford it, my husband thinks we should wait until after the shower. I just feel a bit weird asking people to buy me things! I felt the same way about my wedding registry :p But, money will be tight, so every bit would help…
Post # 10
Right now we put everything we need on a registry, and our using it more like a shopping list. We got a crib but adding up everything minus clothes it would cost us about 2,500…. We haven’t had a shower yet, but I don’t want to rely on everyone’s generosity.
Post # 11
I waited until after my shower to purchase almost everything. Mind you, I didn’t ask for “BIG” items on our registry like the crib, change table, carseat, etc.
I am SO glad I waited on all the other things though. I got way more than I ever expected at my shower. Tons of clothes, blankets, shampoo, wash, face clothes, bibs, toys, burp cloths, play mats, bouncy seats etc. I will warn you, if you’re expecting a girl, women tend to go crazy buying all the cute girly things…lol
I didn’t ask for diapers as we are cloth diapering, but I know lots of people wanted to buy us diapers! lol
I used and still use pretty much everything I got at the shower! After purchasing all of the “big” items on our own and then having the shower, I had very little to buy at all. A lot of the clothes I got lasted us 3 months before i needed to buy anything new. lol
Post # 12
like others, I think it largely depends on your friends/family.
We ended up buying most of the larger things because they were on sale like the dresser, glider, carseat, packnplay, stroller
We also got a few gift cards/cash to use for the monitor and other large gifts. I got the crib and mattress from work.
when it is all said and done we will probably spend about 800-1000 out of pocket for everything we didnt get as gifts.
Post # 13
like pp said, it depends on your crowd. I know my friends are big spenders and this is the first grandbaby so all the aunts/uncles and grandarents on BOTH sides are chomping at the bits to spoil this baby. I registered for a BUNCH of big ticket items. My DH & I did buy the crib,dresser,glider, and mattress on our own. But I put the carseat and stroller, breast pump, diaper bag and swing all on the registry. I’m pretty sure i’ll get it. If not—-i’ll get a bunch of little stuff whcih I can always exchange and/or use!
Post # 14
We just had our shower and received both our big carseats ($300 each) but not our baby carrier or extra base. We bought our stroller and crib/furniture/mattress ourselves, but also receieved a pack and play, bouncy seat, exersaucer, and some other large items that we registered for. Since our shower we’ve probably spent about $1,500 getting the items we registered for but didn’t get and/or really wanted. Granted this includes $300 in bedding (yeah, I know we’re crazy). Overall I would say we have easily spent $3,000 by the time you include furniture, large items, crib, bedding and all the small stuff we have yet to get and did not receive at the registry. We had money in the bank earmarked for this, so we’re not stressed about it. That being said, you could certainly do it for less.