(Closed) What did you give and provide to your bridesmaids?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m buying them gifts and writing nice notes (individual gifts, not jewelry to wear during the wedding).

They are choosing their own dresses and shoes (both black) and I’m not asking them to get hair, makeup, or nails done.  I can’t cover their travel costs, but we’re all getting ready together the day of at my parents’ house and I’ll be sure to have munchies available (cheese and crackers, veggies and dip, fruit, etc.)

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If you are wondering – this is a list of things they pay for vs. what you pay for (if you require it).

– They cover the cost of the dress, as long as you check with them each individually about their budgets, and adhere to the lowest estimate.

– You may ask them to buy a shoe in a neutral color (metals, black/gray, nude) but if you require a specific shoe of a specific color that people may not already own, you should pay for it.

– You can give them option to get hair/makeup/nails done, but again if you require it, you pay for it.

– You do not need to cover travel costs or lodging costs or food costs (apart from meals at the reception and rehearsal dinner, obviously).

– If you get them all matching jewelry to wear at the wedding, that’s great, but its a good idea to get them another, more personal gift, since the jewelry is part of their ‘uniform’.  Ditto that for other accessories (shoes, shawls, etc.)

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@AshleyR83:  Yes, own jewelry (to be honest I don’t really have a silver/gold preference) and option for hair and makeup.  I might have a friend come and do mine, so she can do theirs (if they choose and pay her) but they can do their own as well.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I bought their shoes and jewelry (pearl earrings and pearl bracelets). I am paying for the hairstylist’s “travel fee” for my friend’s hair stylist to come and do two of my bridesmaids hair. I am paying for lunch the day before the wedding. I am paying for lunch the day of the wedding. For their gift I got each of my girls robes that will be embroidered some how (not bridesmaid), a set of 6 cute polka dot Kate Spade coasters, Vera Wang personalized stationary, Coach wristlets, these cute pocket mirrors that are shaped like a bow, MAC lip gloss, Tiffany coffee mug, Skinny Girl Margarita Mix, and a bottle of Moscato. I am also paying for my Maid/Matron of Honor hair and makeup. I am contemplating paying for two of my bridesmaids hotel rooms that are from out of town. I am also thinking of paying for mani/pedi the day before. I will also have a snack basket in all of my guests rooms, so the bridesmaids staying at the hotel will get this too.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I let my bridesmaids pick their own knee-length dress from David’s Bridal in the clover color I chose.  I basically said any color nude/champagne/beige-ish shoe was fine – didn’t care if it was sparkly, patent leather, strappy, pump or whatever!  I gave them the option of getting hair/nails/makeup done but did not require.  I’ve tried really hard not to be overbearing or demanding with anything!

For their gift, I am giving them embroidered tote bags from Land’s End (got them WAY on sale.. go me!) filled with:  a personalized hanger that I am making, a painted wine glass (not with bridesmaid or anything on it) that I’m making, an embroidered robe (still waiting to find a nice one on sale) and a piece of jewelry that I think matches their personality (NOT to wear at the wedding unless they want to).  Hopefully they’ll like it!!  

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I paid for my bridesmaids dresses, manicures, pedicures, hair and makeup. Felt bad making them pay for a dress they’d probably never wear again. I told them this was my gift but I also got them jewelry to wear for the wedding. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I was going to just do gifts, no hair no makeup they could do thier own or pay their choice. then 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man said I’d rather you pay for makeup and not give me a gift, since it was her request I did. Yesterday my Bridesmaid or Best Man spoke up that “hair was necessary, but an expense she couldn’t afford” so I offered her the same deal I’ll pay but no gift. She was happy with that.

 

I also gave them wedidng necklaces but I’m not considering that as part of their gift.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We paid for accommodations and food for two days for all our guests, including our attendants (MOH and dude of honor).  We bought each of our attendants a Swiss army knife.  Both wore outfits they alread owned.  And we gave the Maid/Matron of Honor the option of a professional or DIY for hair/make-up, and she chose to do it herself.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper

I have a little Out of Town bag I have for them with some essentials like cutesy little things, I also an buying their flowers for their hair and made some specialty toasting glasses for them and I am going to arrange them all in a nice basket with a card

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I gave them earrings (to wear for the wedding), satin robe, and pj set.   They paid for their own hair/mu which was both optional.  They wore black sandels they already had and a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress they all already had.  My wedding was local, so no one had to pay for hotel.  I think I did pretty good to keep expenses down.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My BMs do not know that I am paying for MOHs hair and makeup, but the Maid/Matron of Honor is my little sister who is 15 and obviously has no income of her own so I doubt they would have a problem with it. If it comes up I will tell them if not I guess they will never know.

 

@AshleyR83:  Thanks! I love my bridesmaids, I have been friends with them since I was younger! Plus I love giving fabulous gifts to people! My MOHs gift will have to be slightly modified since it would not be legal for me to give her alcohol!

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