Post # 91
Initially I gave up my dram venue bt that allowed me to have the wedding of my dreams anyway. I ended up finding the most perfect venue and got all the extras I wanted, like transportation, photographer, pro hair and makeup, dj, pro catering, etc. my dream wedding cost less than the wedding at the dream venue and i got even more stuff. So yay…
Post # 92
A swing band! Would have been amazing, but so expensive. Also a pianist for the reception drinks.
Post # 93
I gave up a honeymoon and a makeup artist. But my wedding ring is custom and absolutely beautiful, which was a bit more money, so I guess you win some and you lose some.
Post # 94
Things I gave up that I didn’t really care about:
photobooth (they are at every wedding now and I’m completely sick of them)
Other things I gave up:
fancy centerfilled cupcakes (we are just going with regular ones because we realized it was mostly just for a display/picture since we have an amazing sweet table so paying 500 dollars for really fancy ones was a bit nuts).
uplighting (just not worth the cost to me)
we also are doing DIY centerpieces instead of hiring the florist to do those. We also made a bunch of things DIY rather than spend the money to buy them (invitations, cake stand, card holder, streamer wands for exit).
Veil- instead of buying a really expensive veil from the bridal store, I ordered one in from a bridal accessory/ chair rental store for 40 bucks.
Fiance also wanted steak as one of our options, but after learning that it would add 2k to the wedding we choose fish and chicken instead.
Venue- the original venues I looked into had an absolutely nuts pricetag. Absolutely love my venue though
All in all, I don’t really feel like I’m giving up anything, just making chooses that make the most sense to me to build what will be our perfect wedding (because we are getting married and our family and friends will be there!)
Post # 95
We only really ‘gave up’ 3 things: a photo album (we plan to save and get one for our 1st anniversary); a fully-open bar (which isn’t the norm where we live anyway; we’re being more than generous for where we live/our social circle); and trasnport (which we felt was a waste of time: we’re getting ready at the reception venue which is literally a 3 minute walk from the ceremony venue).
There were areas we had to be sensible in eg when our original photographer cancelled with just 4.5 months to go, we didn’t have a lot of photogs to choose from. The one who had the edge would have cost us $6.5k which was just too much (the original photog was $4k and we didn’t want to go massively above this; at a real push we could have gone to $5k). I would also have liked to have upgraded the steka option from sirloin to fillet, but at a cost of $11 pp and with about 35 guests ordering it, that was money that we felt could be better spent elsewhere (ie increasing our bar tab)
I also bought a sample dress in order to come in on budget; the ones I liked were all about $2300+, and going this route I got one for $1600, which was a good saving. We also saved money by going with a venue that needed very little in terms of additional decoration, and so in a roundabout way we saved there too.
Post # 96
- Wedding: December 2014 - Norton Country Club
I’m still in the mode of thinking that we made choices instead of sacrifices… we chose a family party with plenty of food versus a fancy cocktail hour with an open bar. We chose a really good photography team over having a photographer and videographer that would put us into debt. We picked non-floral centerpieces so that we could afford more appetizers for hungry guests who drove many hours to celebrate with us… My only big concern with this is the videographer. Fiance and I really want to have some video of the moments we say our vows. I’m thinking one of my brothers with a camcorder will do in a pinch!
Post # 97
I’m getting pretty much everything I could possibly want except a sushi bar and some post-reception fresh donuts and cookies.
We’re not having a videographer or photo booth, but we didn’t want them anyhow.
I think there’s always more I could want (MORE flowers), but there’s not really anything I’m sacrificing.
Post # 98
Videographer.. still sad about that 🙁
Post # 99
Honestly, the one thing I wanted REALLY bad I had to give up, and that was the idea of dinner at the wedding. We had to do a venue swap, and my guest list kept on growing so I’m rolling with a cake and champaign reception. We are doing a bridal party brunch for both sides, and a really nice rehearsal dinner though. I’m still excited, and I am getting used to the simplicity of it all. We are going to have a DJ, too! Dessert and dancing…. 😀 What more could you ask for?
Post # 100
I would have really loved a party bus to transport my guests to and from the ceremony/reception, but I wasn’t able to find one that fit into our budget. All of the ones I contacted wanted $1200.
Post # 101
I’m giving up having a night wedding and a band.
Post # 102
No Chivari chairs/seat covers
No elaborate flower centerpieces
No gold sparkly table linen 🙁
Post # 105
We had a whole other wedding planned at a beautiful country club by where we live, but we ended up moving our wedding date up by a year which then cut our budget by half!
Now we’re getting married in my home town in my family church and having the reception at a hall across the street.
I wanted a photobooth, Fiance thinks is stupid, so that’s out.
No formal sit down dinner, instead havy apps. Cuts cost, but still lots of food.
Future Sister-In-Law making cake/cupcakes
No limo- prices are insane!
No host bar- cost bar instead
I don’t feel like I’m ‘giving up’ as much as finding creative solutions and prioritizing. When I was younger and invisioned my future wedding I also had an unlimited budget… which is not the case. In reality, I’d rather build a nice garage at the house my Fiance and I just bought, then have a chocolate fountain or some of the other things I thought I needed in order to be happy. As long as I’m married to my love at the end of the day it’ll be exactly what I want. At some point I stopped planning a party and starting focussing on building a marriage and it made nixing unnecessary items a lot easier!