What did you give your bridesmaids on your wedding day?

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Just give them each one nice gift based on their individual taste/interests. Buying them all the same thing isn’t very thoughtful/ Would you buy everyone on your Christmas list the same gift?

Anything they are expected to use or wear on your wedding day, is not a gift. It is a prop for your pictures. That includes, getting ready attire, jewelry, personalized hangers and wine glasses, pashminas etc.

Don’t buy a canvas tote from the dollar store and fill it with other junk from the dollar store. If they wanted these off brands of cosmetics, bath items etc and replicas they would buy them for themselves.

Take some time to think about these women who are supposedly your nearest and dearest, and buy them one hing to show your appreciation.

Post # 17
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Newbee

julies1949 – I disagree, I think my BMs would rather have me cover that expense than not cover it and buy them something that they probably would rarely use. 

Post # 18
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Busy bee

My wedding is in 10 weeks. I am paying for their hair, makeup & giving them each a pair of Pandora earrings. 

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

We gave our bridal party Lladro figurines

Post # 20
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

bewilderedbride0918 : You didn’t specify which expense you are referring to. but you are still free to pay for anything you require. In fact, etiquette dictates that you do. Their gift is above and beyond what they need for your wedding.

That’s why you put some thought into it and buy them something they would love and use.

Post # 21
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Newbee

julies1949 :  To imply and assume that I wouldn’t put thought into it is a mistake. I have been in 10+ weddings and I often get gifts that I do not need or use. It is not that they didn’t put any thought into it, I am sure that they did. It’s just that we’re at a point in our lives where we don’t need all of these things. 

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

It is customary to pay for their hair and makeup?

My wedding is the first wedding I’m in so I really don’t know how this all usually goes!

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

leelee93 :  getting ready PJs (they all picked out their favorite floral print), a personalized hanger (just their names on it), a coach wristlet and Michael kors wallet (these were both things my mom purchased for them), and then they each got a personal gift. I put it all in a reusable grocery tote. 

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I had 4 bridesmaids.  I got them all drink tumblers, monogrammed makeup bags, and I picked out a nice pair of earrings for each of them based on personal style.  I also paid for hair the day of the wedding.  2 bridesmaids were my friends, and the other 2 were my husbands sisters.  The sisters didn’t spend the morning of the wedding with us (both had new babies) so I treated my mom and my 2 friends to massages the morning of the wedding before we started getting ready.  Although I think that gift was more for me… it allowed me over an hour to be by myself and sit on the beach with no one bothering me!  It was a nice way to start the day before everything got crazy, and I know my mom and friends were very appreciative, and very surprised since I had kept it a secret.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

trishthedish23 :  It’s not customary but I believe the generally accepted rule is that if you require it to be done, you should pay for it. If you’re fine with them choosing a cheaper route for hair and makeup and just giving them the option then they’re on their own. 

I paid for theirs because I wanted everyone to look fairly uniform, and have 1 less thing to worry about on that day. 

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Personalized Tote Bag

Necklace (Each was different for the individual ladies)

Personalized Tumbler

Monogrammed button up shirt

Monogrammed Accessory pouch 

(My mom, Dad, and Flower Girl got a little something small and sentimental as well…)

We also covered their hair and makeup the day of… It was not previously discussed, and some were surprised… but they were happy

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

bee123456789 :  I agree with this. I wouldn’t care for something personalized either. 

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I actually liked the robe ?I got as a bridesmaid gift.  I use it all the time!  So I’m including it for my ladies.  I also got a lovely mug in one, and now it’s one of my favorites. 

I love the idea of including a bath bomb in the gift baskets!  I think I’ll do that.  My mom keeps telling me to put more money into the jewlery rather than buying them non wedding related gifts.  But I am not going to listen to her and get them something lovely anyway!  Bridesmaids always end up having to do so much.

 

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