(Closed) What did you include during your After-Elopement Reception?

posted 4 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

We had a cocktail reception with different food stations, open bar, dancing and we did the cake cutting because we didn’t have a real cake cutting at our elopement. We gave favors and played a video of our ceremony and provided a photo book for guests to look at. The only things we left out were speeches (we thanked everyone individually for coming), and bouquet/garter tosses, and we left it a little less structured than a typical wedding reception. You could sort of tell that people were expecting more structure though, so in the end we had a friend announce when it was time to eat, start dancing, cake cutting etc because people were kind of just sitting at the tables for a while. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Hey! We got married just this May – he is military. . .so we are planning a party for next may our one year anniversary.

I wanted it to be a brunch. So it isn’t this massive DJ, dancing, drinking into the night affair. I know thats the norm, but I wanted something quieter, but still really nice!

There are these really cool breweries you can rent out for intimate parties. 

The elements I’m including are: 

An omelet station – a table filled with breakfast goodies sausage and bacon. Croissants and muffins.

Bubbly Bar: Champagne on ice with carafes of peach juice orange juice and mango juice as well as fruit to add to your drinks strawberries peaches blackberreis raspberries- all sliced and ready to go.

Then a stand alone cake table off to the side. Just a small cake.- Butter cream single tier. Topped with flowers. We can do champagne toast and cake cutting.

a coffee bar with tea! 

Finally a Dessert Bar for a few other desserts for prettiness factor. macarons, cupcakes, fruit, yogurt, pie. 

 I want to hire some live music for an hour of dancing. then thats it!! BOOM all done in a few hours- fun filled morning of champagne – some live music – good eggs and breakies. . . all with immediate family and best friends only. 

By keeping the guest list short, I can really make the party very special with lots of flowers and great food. 

It sounds like a lot when I type it all out like this- i was just trying to be specific. The reality will be, people show up in the morning for some coffee at the coffee bar – then vows – then we eat omelets and whatever. – then champagne toast and cake cut – then some live music dancing then finished! 

So its short and sweet with a lot of the elements of a wedding – without the massive stress. Cause HEY! we are already married!! We just want to have a fun party! 

This is what I’m planning on- and I hope maybe some of it helps to shape your ideas too. 

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

Our at-home reception is tomorrow!

My husband and I had a small Destination Wedding in early April, but we wanted to have some sort of celebration at home for everyone else. We originally wanted a simple cocktail reception with passed apps and music. However, this is really my parents’ baby and they insisted on having a full sit-down meal. They made the point that a lot of people are flying in from out of town for this and that we should feed them a proper meal. So now it’s basically like any other wedding reception you’ve ever been to, just the wedding part already happened! 😉

We have a cocktail hour, then dinner, then we will cut the cake (we did have a cake at our Destination Wedding but we couldn’t figure out an easy way to have it shipped back home for us to have on our 1-year anniversary, so we decided to do another one). There will be dancing and music, but we won’t do any special dances like we did at the actual wedding (no first dance, etc.). No garter or bouquet toss (didn’t do this at the real wedding either). Basically just: cocktails, dinner, cake, then PARTY! 🙂 Also, I will be wearing a wedding dress. It’s not MY wedding dress from the Destination Wedding, but a cheaper one I bought especially for this occasion. Oh and we will have a slideshow of pictures from the actual wedding for people to see. Can’t wait!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

We eloped in February and had a reception in March. I just wanted to get our closest family and friends together to celebrate our marriage so I wanted it to be a big party. I was originally going to do a backyard BBQ in the summer but I didn’t want there to be such a huge gap between the elopement and the reception, so we changed it to a venue.

The reception started at 6pm and guests walked right into cocktail hour (open bar, passed apps, stationed apps). The DJ introduced us halfway through cocktail hour and we went up to the mic and welcomed everyone, thanked them for coming, and told them what we would be doing (eating, drinking, and dancing!). For the rest of cocktail hour we talked to our guests and the photographer followed us around and took pics. We had a buffet dinner at 7, followed by the cake cutting and our first dance. Then the DJ opened up the dance floor for everyone. We ended up keeping the bar open all night. Party ended at 11. It was so fun! We didn’t do toasts, parent dances, or bouquet toss/garter toss. Just eat, drink, dance.

We had a budget of $10K (for 85 guests) and we came in at around $9,500 woo! We saved money by hiring a friend of a friend who is starting her photography business so she was super cheap. The DJ was just starting out too but was recommended by the venue, so he was still really cheap but he did an amazing job. We got lucky. My best friend is a baker and make our cake and cupcakes as a gift. I DIY’d most of the decor including flowers that I ordered bulk from Sam’s Club. The venue had a modern style so we didn’t need to do much to make it look nice.

We eloped on an island and splurged on photography so we showed our pics on a projection screen during the whole reception. It seems like everyone really enjoyed seeing them.

We also had a lot of out-of-towners and it was important to me to make sure they had a fun time! Having a DJ was essential for keeping the flow and making sure everyone (from my 6 year old cousin to my 76 year old grandmother) was having a blast. Also, lots of food and free booze doesn’t hurt.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

I’m trying to do the same thing! We want to elope in July 2017 and then I’d like a small get together with 85-100 people.

I can’t decide if I want a brunch or an evening party or what! I don’t want it to be a huge RECEPTION. I’d rather it just be a party. No cake cutting, no garter toss, no toasts, no speeches, not formal at all. It will be in August in the south, so outdoors won’t work – even though that is the relaxed feel I want. 

For the vows, I’m thinking of stenciling them on something that can be hung on the wall. We can have them at the party, but I don’t plan on saying them again. Mostly I want the vows to be something that we can keep in our home but would be a nice decoration at the party.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2016

We are having a courthouse ceremony this June 20th and plan on having a reception in August. We rented a park pavillion on a lake and we are getting food catered from a BBQ place. The plan is to have people eat food and then do a few speeches and a toast. We will then cut the cake. After that it will just be relaxing with people mingling and playing a few yard games (cornhole, ring toss, etc.). It will be a very relaxing event. My FH and I will be wearing some Mr. and Mrs. T-shirts were going to get made. 

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