Post # 1
Hi newlyweds 🙂
What did you learn about yourself while you were planning the wedding. I learned that I was a control freak. It seems crazy that I wouldn’t have known, right? I am crazy type A and organized but I didn’t know I was a control freak. I realized when people would offer to help and I’d say “No, that is fine! Thanks though! I’ll let you know if there is anything else that comes up”..I know it is good to accept help sometimes but I like to have the CONTROL. haha
I mentioned the above “realization” to a few friends and relatives and they all LAUGHED that I hadn’t known before…
what did you find out about yourself while planning the wedding?
Post # 3
I always knew I was a very artsy/crafty-type person, but I learned from the wedding process that I was NOT a DIY bride! As much as I love scrapbooking, making cards, paper products and crafts for my friends and my personal projects, a wedding is a whole different kind of challenge! I semi-DIYed my invitations which were turned out absolutely gorgeous and I loved. But it took me a few weeks to recover from the stress and all the paper cuts! After that, I was more than happy to have all the rest of the paper suite, décor and everything else handled by the professionals. It turned out so much more beautifully than I could have imagined or done on my own. And the stress saved allowed me to totally relax and enjoy the wedding which was well worth the expense. As our floral designer said, “pretty weddings aren’t cheap and cheap weddings aren’t pretty!” (that is said tongue in cheek of course since there are plenty of exceptions :o)
Post # 4
My Mother-In-Law said it perfectly- I am very creative, I can think up the ideas- but getting them all done and on time, I needed help. I’m the thinker, my husband is the do’er.
Post # 5
not a newlywed (yet), but we’ve had a 13 month engagement, in which i was done with planning about… a few months ago (when law school started)…
so i’m pretty much an old bird when it comes to wedding planning LOL (even tho i havent experienced THE day just yet!)
however, from DAY 1 of wedding planning… both my Maid/Matron of Honor and Fiance said that i am quite the decisive, efficient bride. for a girl that’s never really “dreamt about her wedding day”… i was good at seeing a few options, picking what i liked, and in the long research process doing a good job of honing in on the best local deals. 🙂
the efficient part of me def took over my creative part; not letting myself get into too many DIY projects that were beautiful in my dreams; but couldnt come to fruition in reality due to lack of time.
Post # 6
I surprised myself with how mature I am. I feel like everyone around me had some kind of drama and I was just smooth sailing (other than my dress saga of course!).
Post # 7
I learned that I can deal with a tremendous amount of stress, but that I needed a break before becoming entirely too burned out. I also learned exactly what NOT to do for my future children’s weddings.
Post # 8
Not a newlywed yet, but very very close! I learned that I am not as strong as I thought I was. I have always been very indepent and a control freak so I want to do everything on my own. But with all the stress and drama I really learned to lean on my Fiance. It has brought us closer and made us a much stronger couple and taught me that I do not need to do everything alone and it’s okay to ask for help.
Post # 9
I discovered that I’m a pushover. I had a hard time saying “no” to the ideas that were presented to me by others that did not fit in with what my husband and I envisioned (my mother suggesting that we hold it at the DAR instead of the cool, funky place we had it at)- he was MUCH better at it than I, so I recruited him to politely quash ideas we didn’t like:)
Post # 10
Biggest thing i learned was that yes i’m a control freak but i was able to deligate things to my hubby to do. I learned that i can be more decisive if i wanted to. We only had six months to plan our wedding so i had to be decisive, which i’m usually not.
Post # 11
I learned that I had my priorities straight (which I pretty much knew beforehand). No drama, no problems too much to handle, no arguments or fights – it wasn’t relaxing but it didn’t push me or anyone else to the brink…
I also wish I had set up contracts with a couple vendors (specifically the woman who did my invitations) but I didn’t have that foresight – I was just kinda floating through a lot of the plans. If I found myself in a similar situation I’d be better organized (hopefully not another wedding but anything remotely comparable and I will be better organized…)
Post # 12
I learned that my husband and I are a great team! I learned that its okay to say “no” to people. I learned that you can’t make everyone happy, so just make sure you are happy. I learned I work well with deadlines, but I do not work well with out deadlines (as I continue to procrastinate on thank you notes).
Post # 13
I don’t like to delegate. I have expensive tastes. I’m kind of shallow.
Post # 14
Oddly enough, I learned that things can be much less stressful if you just relinquish control! With regard to wedding planning at least. I do like to have control of most things in my life. But the wedding planning process was difficult to conquer all, so I just threw my hands up and said ‘whatever will be, will be’ and it was so freeing! I was lucky that it didn’t blow up in my face. I think it was great at helping keep relationships in tact!
Post # 15
Uhm, I learned that I am lazy, haha. I came up with so many great project ideas but to be honest, NONE of them would have happened if my mom hadn’t executed them!