(Closed) What did you learn from the last wedding you attended?

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
4047 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Make sure the food is good. It’s one of the things people will be talking about months later, and you don’t want them going on about how crummy it was.

Pay attention to the way the tables are arranged and make everyone feel included. People will be offended if they are shoved off in a corner.

Have a good sound system that everyone can hear. I had no idea what the vows were at the last wedding I went to, nor did I hear a word of the best man’s speech.

Post # 4
993 posts
Busy bee

@tiff-tiff-tiff:  like you said ppl forgot about the favors!! but at the wedding i went to they were mini champagne bottles so once ppl realized towards the end, everyone made a B line for them lol. so if u put a lot of effort (spend tons of $$ ) into them maybe consider placing them in a noticeable location, ive even seen them placed on tables or ommitting them all together. 

in addition consider having various food options and covering the basic types if possible (vegetarian and meat eaters) I personally am not vegetarian, but ppl literally only had salad to eat at this wedding I went to and I felt bad/uncomfortable eating my lamb while they nibbled on little to nothing not bcus i was eating meat but bcus they had nothing to eat at all. it was horrible

Post # 6
434 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Gaps are terrible, especially if you are from out of town. 

Treat every guest equally; at the last wedding I was at, the wedding party had access to mixed drinks while the rest of the guests only had beer and wine. It was very noticeable, and rude.

Post # 7
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Make sure you have a list of music for the DJ to play don’t leave it up to the DJ, I have been to a few weddings where the DJ starts playing modern techno dance music, so everyone goes outside to get away and no one dances. A good list of retro music is sure to get everyone up on the dance floor.

Also make sure you tell the photographer what photos you would like with guests, went to the wedding and the night is almost over and the brides asks for photos with all the tables it should have been done early on in the night.

Post # 8
1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I hate sitting around waiting for the bridal party to show up.  And if you are going to keep your guests waiting, at least have a big variety of hor deourves.  

Post # 9
3586 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

@tiff-tiff-tiff:  Must. Have. Alcohol.

I don’t care if you charge me for it, but do not expect me to spend 6 hours on a Saturday night at a dry party.

Post # 10
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Don’t drag out the dinner and boring speeches/”entertainment”. And pick a nice accommodating venue that guests will be comfortable in! 

Post # 11
326 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I learned that i really don’t like head tables. We were at a table with all the bridal party dates (waaay in the back), and while they were all pleasant, it was plain to see that they weren’t having as much fun as they could be. And the bridal party looked uncomfortable too.

It gets REALLY hot if the reception is indoors, even with air conditioning. Oofda!

No one remembered the favors. A lot of guests picked them up on the way into the reception, but the majority of them just ended up getting left on the tables. it just slipped peoples mind, including mine (I’m sad about forgetting mine…)

Awkward swaying for the first dance is no fun to watch. Its cute for like the first 30 seconds, but 2 minutes…. you don’t need to have it choreographed, but some spins and interesting/fitting music (and a dip at the end! lol) makes all the difference!

Having a really long gap between the ceremony and reception is weird for out-of-town guests who don’t know what to do lol We just ended up going back to the hotel and watching spongebob for an hour and a half.

For the love of pete send out thank yous. We’re poor college students and gave a large gift (which we went in with some of our friends), and travelled through 2 states to be there. Fiance and I haven’t recieved a thank you and this wedding was in early june! It makes it seem like the bride and groom didn’t appreciate us going through all the work and sacrificing for them, They verbally thanked us for coming, but that gift was expensive and no thank you for it. (if you cant tell, i’m still a little peeved haha)

Post # 12
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

The last wedding I attended was mine!

I learned that you can EITHER 1-Run out of apps early OR 2-Run 30 minutes late.

Because if you do both, your guests will be STARVING and they WILL tell you how hungry/unhapy they are with your wedding!

(But our buffet was all-you-can-eat, so once people got their meals they were much happier!)

Post # 13
1251 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Cocktail hours that go too long. The most recent wedding I went to had a cocktail ‘hour’ that went for over 2 hours. Tbh it gets a bit boring.

Thinking about your guests needs – shade, water etc. being available if it is a super hot day is always appreciated.

Post # 14
7211 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

The last wedding i went to was a lovely, at home, tiny ceremony. Still, I learned a few things.

I don’t care how late your guests usually are… do NOT tell them the ceremony is starting more than 15 minutes earlier than it really is. They had a house full of annoyed guests for 45 minutes!

I don’t care how short your ceremony is… have seats for everyone or no one. They had two rows of eight chairs reserved for family and one row of eight up for grabs. People were PISSED they didn’t get one of those 8 seats (since the BFF/officiant told me to grab two of them, I was not one of the pissed :P)

If you’re going to have a ton of liquor, for godsake have dancing music! Due to people drinking too much and having nothing better to do I was trying to get out of crazy drunk crying conversations all damn night & ended up leaving early for it!

Post # 15
7679 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999


1. At least for a smaller wedding, entertainment is unnecessary. Guests are capable of holding conversations and socialising.

2. If one of the couple has a child from a previous relationship, and that child is at the wedding, there is no need to invite the other parent (and it would have been super awkward to do so).

3. Most of the time, children at a wedding are no problem.

4. Life is much easier with assigned seating. (Though I already knew that).

5. Not everyone can attend, and that’s ok. No date works for everyone.

6. If you’re attending an outdoor wedding, wear sunscreen 🙂

Post # 16
8695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Decor IS a MUST

good food is a must

if you want to be cheap then elope 

everyone complained over the bar/drink selections and there were tip jars all over

doesnt matter because my wedding already passed. Lol

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