Post # 137
Don’t try to overcrowd the room. If your venue is an absolute must-have (nothing wrong with this) I would suggest cutting the number of guests rather than trying to squish everyone in. Or obviously, change venues to suit the number of people..
Post # 138
Like seriously! Especially if your guests have travelled any distance to your wedding and can’t just nip home until it is time for the reception to start. If you must take 2 hours with your wedding pictures (and I question that anyone really needs to) then for goodness sake be absolutely clear on your invitation that the ceremony starts at X o’clock but the reception won’t start until Y o’clock. That way people are at least prepared and don’t have to stand around in their finery like spare parts. People like to have conversations and they often like to sight-see in interesting cities but what they’ve come for is a wedding. So actually, what they’d really like to do is see the bride and groom. Not go up the Empire State Building.
My nieces wedding was lovely in all respects except that nobody had been given the heads up about the 3 hour interval between ceremony and reception. We were taking care of my elderly and rather frail Mother-In-Law and she was NOT up to hanging around. Fortunately we went to the hotel where the reception was being held and I got her settled in a comfy chair with a pot of tea. But she was flagging long before the reception and so were many other guests who were not elderly!
Be thoughtful about the music too. The worst wedding I went to had the reception in a small function room of a pub. The “DJ” played an endless series of head-bangingly loud garage music while the mainly middle-aged and older guests sat around the furthest corner of the room in painful silence. Nobody danced. Nobody talked. It was impossible to do either.
For my son’s recent wedding we were all asked to pick one track of our choice for their DJ (a very talented friend) to play at the reception. This worked brilliantly. We had the perfect selection of dancing numbers and the floor was packed all evening.