(Closed) What did you learn from the last wedding you attended?

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
Post # 62
1646 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@ohmariemarie:  I agree with not having weddings on holiday weekends. President’s Day isn’t bad, but I really dislike weddings on NYE, Labor Day Weekend, Memorial Day Weekend, July 4th. Those days are mad expensive for air travel, hell for booking hotels, and are holidays when I normally see a lot of my friends so I’m more inclined not to go to a friend’s wedding

Post # 63
534 posts
Busy bee

Don’t marry someone you don’t get along with or you may wind up divorcing months later.

Post # 64
322 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Restaurant


    1. Good food and booze selections matter.  Although the wedding had an free bar there were only two really sweet wine options and 1 beer option, and I was disappointed.  I would have paid for a glass of dry red wine if I could, but that wasn’t an option.  Also the food was pretty gross, low quality.  Although I did love the chocolate fountain (OMG), I had a stomach ache from all the sweets!  I wish I had a nice filling dinner instead!


      1. Having the ceremony and reception 30 minutes away is not terrible, but an inconvenience.  After that we decided we had to have our ceremony and reception in the same place.


        1. If you have your wedding on a Sunday night, local people are going to leave way early.  It’s kind of a bummer.


          1. The bride is going to look amazing and steal the show no matter what her size!  This bride was on the larger side, but she looked like a freaking movie star in her dress, hair and makeup.


            1. I actually really liked that the bride walked herself down the aisle!  I don’t know her that well and I’m sure where her father was, but I liked it and she really stood out and shined walking alone.  I would like to do that, but I’m sure my dad would be terribly disappointed.

            Post # 65
            215 posts
            Helper bee
            • Wedding: October 2005

            I learned a few things as the last wedding I attended was a disater. It seemed that they did not put any effort or time into this wedding. You would have thought it was a quick wedding but they were actually engaged for almost a year and a half. Not what I was expecting. 

            1) Have music for the ceremony. There was no music and guests were basically unaware that the wedding was starting.

            2) Have enough food. They had maybe food for 40 people but invited 140 people. I didn’t eat at all. 

            3) Have seating. In the hall at the church there was 1 table reserved for grandparents and everyone else was basically supossed to stand. No flowers, no decorations, pretty much nothing. It was an empty room. 

            4) Make sure your wedding invitations allow people to know what kind of wedding they are attending. The invitations for this wedding were formal. Inner and outter envelope, professionally printed, had a dinner choice on the RSVP card and so on. So we dressed formally, were expecting a formal event, and did not eat first and we were so let down. 

            Overall, I learned to make your guests feel welcome and comftorable and that it will be a great wedding. At this wedding everyone was uncomftorable and not made to feel welcome at all. The reception lasted a grand total of 45mins before everyone left. I mean with no food, seats, or dancing what were supossed to do? Stand and think about being hungry? 

            Post # 67
            211 posts
            Helper bee
            • Wedding: May 2015

            1. Move directly into cocktail hour with your guests it gives you a chance to chat before everyone is made to sit down for dinner. As much as I want to avoid a first look I would hate to make people wait and possibly force everything to be later than planned.

            2. Have everything in the same location/property but not too far away that people feel they need a golf cart to get between spots. Hotels are great for this and plan your other blocks within a short distance for taxis/cabs back, if they offer a shuttle through the hotel see if you can pay extra to have them do a late run to the venue.

            3. If bathrooms arent easy to find or have signage to direct you put up signs for guests so they dont wander around for half an hour. When a 4 year old needs to pee mom and dad need to know where those bathrooms are and not hunt them down in a maze of a venue

            4. Hire people to do your dirty work. I saw a bride flipping the ceremony room to the reception room during cocktails. Have a coordinator/planner for the day it really is worth the money since the bride was getting more upset and it took 2 hours to flip and still wasnt completely finished.

            5. Live musicians make all the difference in getting people out of their seats and can read the crowd pretty well. We are using the same cover band as another couple and will be worth the money. I hate going to wedding and there being no music during the ceremony, cocktails, dining until an hour after people eat and then most people have left. We will have stuff through out

            Post # 68
            9129 posts
            Buzzing Beekeeper
            • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

            Don’t let the ceremony drag on for too long.  The couple’s wedding ceremony lasted almost an hour and no it wasn’t a Mass.  The pastor knew the bride and groom since they were kids in his Sunday school class and he felt the need to tell every single story about them growing up together.  The first 2 stories were sweet but then he kept going and going and going.  You could hear the guests fidgeting uncomfortably throughout the last 10-15 minutes of his monologue.

            Oh and the bride dipped the groom back for their first kiss.  It would have been funny except the bride notoriously wears the pants in the relationship so instead of a funny gesture, it was a sign of her dominance over the groom.  Ick.

            Post # 69
            1882 posts
            Buzzing bee
            • Wedding: September 2014

            1. If you are having a dry wedding, plan some entertaining things for your guests to do besides sit at the tables for hours. Otherwise they will a) take the party outside and secretly drink from flasks in the parking lot, or b) depart quickly, leaving you with an empty venue that you’ve got for another 2.5 hours.

            2. Don’t spend too much on wedding favors, as so many people leave them behind anyway. Also, glassware with the couple’s name on it ends up at Goodwill. Things like chocolate or cookies that people can instantly consume go over very well.

            3. If your wedding isn’t teeny tiny, please assign seating. Otherwise people will be saving seats, moving chairs, etc – it will be awkward.

            Post # 71
            2942 posts
            Sugar bee
            • Wedding: May 2014

            Number one thing from the last wedding; Keept he DJ volume managable or all my aunts and uncles will escape to a quieter area.  Along that lines, we have a quieter area to escape to.

            Not all pinterest centerpieces look as good as your inspiration board.

            You can save money by DIYing your food, but you need someone in charge of the food still.  Also, guests can be NSFW to staff, evne if they are not really staff. 

            Some people need to have a talking to about open bars.  I found that the bartenders kept giving drinks to one girl who at one point had 10 drinks between the 4 in front of her and the 6 she had left at her mom’s table. 

            Post # 72
            168 posts
            Blushing bee
            • Wedding: July 2014


            1. Feed your guests early and with enough that they aren’t starving. But overfeeding isn’t necessary either. 
            2. A good DJ makes a BIG difference!
            3. Just personal preference – Fiance and I will make sure we say hi to everyone at least once during the night, whether it is in a receiving line, at dinner, or at cocktail hour. I hate when the couple doesn’t come around and say hi to the guests, because it means I never get to congratulate them in person!

            Post # 74
            107 posts
            Blushing bee
            • Wedding: May 2014

            Honestly, what I learned at the last wedding I attended was that even if the wedding is poorly planned, it’s still going to be FUN! 

            Post # 75
            2490 posts
            Buzzing bee
            • Wedding: August 2015

            I learned that you can have fun even on a small budget. Mediocre food, drink tickets, informal iPod reception… being surrounded by your friends, you can have fun no matter what!

            I also learned that it’s important to make sure your guests understand the plan of the day… The wedding was around noon with a small hor d’oeuvre reception outside the church for everyone and then there was a later evening reception with a full dinner, alcohol, and dancing for just close friends and family. I honestly didn’t know if I was invited or not to the late reception because it wasn’t clear on the invite (I was), and I showed up in my dress from the ceremony and the bridesmaids were in jeans. About half the guests were wearing regular clothes and the other half were dressed up… so make sure your guests know what to wear!


            Post # 76
            1780 posts
            Buzzing bee
            • Wedding: October 2014

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            @gromble:  yeah it was pretty bad….I work as a nurse and do some disgusting things….but yeah i was gagging a bit…lol….it was terrible

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