Love these posts! I have to start off by saying, I stressed hardcore the 2 days before the wedding…but the day of, I was 100% cool and calm, no nerves at all until I heard everyone stand when the pastor said “please rise.” Then I was like HOLY CRAP that was a LOT of people!!!” But that subsided after about 4.2 seconds.
Im Thrilled about:
Making sure we kept with our only rule for the wedding – Not stuffy, the guests need to have a LOT of fun, and so do we. We didnt want any of our decisions to make any guests feel uncomfortable.
doing a first look. We did a first look 3 hours before the ceremony. This resulted in ZERO stress and INCREDIBLE photographs. We had all the time in the world (ok well 3 hours, which is a TON of time) to get photos of just the two of us, our Bridal Party, and family. I still had time to steam my dress and retouch my makeup prior to the ceremony. Also, we got to enjoy our full cocktail hour.
I took time to do little things to make the guests feel special – individual flowers at each place setting, naming the tables after things that were special to us and our guests (they noticed,) collecting wine corks for the place cards and putting a funny thank you note to our friends on the seating card table for supporting a habit to create our dream, special songs, etc.
That we decided to have a photobooth – hugest hit EVER. Ditto with the candy buffet. We also had a Football Room where we projected the Ohio State vs USC game. Half of our guests were OSU alumni, we figured it would be a good outlet for them. Really, not many people were in there all night, but they LOVED that they could pop in to check the score and see the highlights.
That we really focused on a great menu for our guests. People are still raving about the food at our wedding. I want someone I know to get married there so I can appreciate it as a guest, I was NOT hungry at the wedding! As a reuslt, I am REALLY happy I asked the wait stafff to box us up some plates to bring home.
We kept the wedding about US – minimal tradition -no bouquet toss or garter toss, no group dances, no sand, etc.
THINGS ID DO DIFFERENTLY
First and foremost – HIRE A DOC….I was mistaken in thinking that my on site coordinator was the same thing – but she wasnt and that was MY mistake. My BMs and family stepped up and ran things well, but the day of it was kind of a CF to be like “who is doing this, please be here at this time, meet at the Bridal Party limo at this time,” etc. A DOC would have HUGELY helped. Some things got missed, but it wasnt a huge deal. There should have been a large floral arrangement on the seating card table (brought over from the church) but the person that brought it to the reception didnt know what it was for and left it on the Bridal Party bus. Oh well…
Not focus so much on the wedding cake. Seriousy. Id fork out the cash in a HEARTBEAT again for my husbands grooms cake (3D model of the Ohio State Stadium – he and all our guests loved it) but our cake? Meh. A sheet cake from a grocery store could have been better. That and the baker blatantly disregarded what I asked him to do because he felt that it looked “too spring garden party and not enough wedding.” Lame. Delicious, but overpriced and I was pissed that when I walked in, he had totally disregarded our instruction.
Make my florist do a mock up – my centerpieces were ALL WRONG. I gave her a picture, said “copy these” and she gave me the info – price, dimensions, etc. We got there and they were only about 8″ across when they should have been like 24″ to 30″ and were arranged jsut all wrong. Ugh.
I still love all of the paper products I made myself (most of them 2 layers and embossed) – the menus, programs, seating cards, thank you notes, “in memory of” signs, “reserved for” signs, Bride & Groom signs, my hand drawn maps for the invites, etc. In the end, mine were so intricate I’d have just paid someone to do them for me with my template. It was a HUGE headache and big time consumer.
Im sure there is more, let me think!!