(Closed) What did you love? Hate? Wish you had…

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Post # 32
3282 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

You know what, my MUA was late and therefore I was almost late to my wedding!  We missed the first look (something I had been debating throughout our engagement) so we ended up seeing each other for the very first time at the ceremony…and you know, it worked.  I felt like things happened for a reason.  

I made a snafu or two, of course – I forgot to make an escort card for my Best Friend, one of my Bridesmaids…but my Maid/Matron of Honor took care of it.  I forgot to pack or ask for a knife for the cake cutting, and the caterers cake out with a huge, samurai-like sword…but guests got a kick out of it!  I loved it all…even the fact that my hubby talked me out of hiring a DOC because he insisted he and his family could take care of it – and you know what, they did!

I am also so thankful we were frugal enough to be fiscally responsible for our wedding planning, and now, with our venue deposit being returned to us, plus wedding gifts, we can see how little we spent, yet still created a special, personal day for us and our family/friends.



Post # 33
297 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Loved = That even though I was stressing our packed restaurant all our guests said they loved the cozy/closeness atmosphere.  There were no empty seats.

Hated = That the church coordinator rushed us off to take pictures right after the ceremony was over and we weren’t able to greet/Thank our guests for coming.  There were a handful of people that went to our wedding and not the reception and I would have liked to acknowledge them.

Wished I had = See “Hated” above and also I wished I had taken my guest book to the reception.  Only about 50 of our 150 guests signed it at the church and I know some people were asking about it.  A minor detail to some but it’s fun to look back on little things like that.

Post # 34
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Darling Husband and I decided instead of doing personalized vows to write notes to each other that we read while we were getting ready. I’m glad we did things this way because we were both so emotional standing up there – there’s no way we would have been able to say anything other than the traditional vows. And it was special to us to know what the other felt privately.


Post # 35
937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Good Stuff:
*We eloped. It was the best decision I ever made.
*Our DJ at the reception back home rocked.
*Potluck reception. It was awesome. It worked out great, the food people brought was awesome, it saved us money, and it was in lieu of gifts (which we didnt want)

Bad stuff:
*I ruined every single picture of me at the reception! I used tattoo cover makeup at my outside ceremony when we eloped and in pictures it looked amazing (see my avatar? No arm tatts!) but for our indoor reception back home… the makeup turned out bright white/near reflective in AALLLLLLLL the photos. I spent hours and hours photoshopping each and every pic (and crying). I got them all eventually fixed but everyone else’s photos of me that they took look like the same big ‘ol mess. Live and learn and don’t cover your tatts I guess?
*We had record breaking heat that day and our reception site had no AC. I was a sweaty mess half way through dinner.
*We partied so much we forgot to bust out the champagne. We still have some leftover nearly 3 months later!
*No one took home our favor bags that I spent forever and a day on. You want some stale gummy candy? Anyone??
*Our first dance. We freaked out with all eyes on us, tried to joke our way through it, but no one laughed. Cricket, cricket.


Lesson learned:
Put all the effort in you want. Care about what you want to care about. But realize that no one critques your wedding choices like you do. Not even close. Things may go wrong but you have to let them go. You don’t want to remember your wedding for the bad things or what you would have done differently. Embrace your wedding and its quirks because it is yours and yours alone. Have a sense of humor the day of and after for the things that went less than perfect. Cuz no matter what happens, all your loved ones are going to think you were absolutely breathtaking and your wedding was gorgeous.

Post # 36
11811 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

Loved:  my dress, my flowers (especially my bouquet), my shoes.  The Dude’s suit.

Hated:  I didn’t really hate the ceremony, but I wish I would’ve worked on it more, polished it up a bit.  Rehearsed it a bit more thoroughly.

Wish I would have decorated more for the rehearsal dinner, hired someone or designated someone to take photos at the rehearsal dinner, and hired a videographer for the wedding.

Post # 37
246 posts
Helper bee

1.  That my hubby (without telling me) decided to deliver Out of Town gift bags to his family members as he picked them up at the airport.  That hadn’t been my plan but ended up working out brilliantly as they had just gotten off a long cross-country flight and were famished.  They were so thankful!

2.  Hiring a photographer who, most importantly in my opinion, we were comfortable with!  I’ve been in so many weddings where the photoggrapher was bossy and drove the bridal party crazy.  Except for when we took portraits, I didn’t even notice that my photographer was there but he still did an excellent job of capturing all my favorite moments.  Some photographers may do good work, but if they are overbearing during your special day, it’s not woth it in my opinion.

3.  Having food (sub trays, chips, veggie trays & soda) @ the ceremony venue for bridal party & family members who were in pictures, venders, etc. to eat before the ceremony which started at 1 pm.  It was great to know that anyone that wanted to could eat before the ceremony and enjoy the ceremony without being hungry.

4.  Having my 8 months pregnant MOH inform the best man that she may need help with my train since she was the only bridesmaid and unsure of how she would do with bending over and having to reach.  Sure enough, she needed his help and he wasn’t caught off guard!

5.  Staying local for our first night (the hotel was only 20 minute drive from the venue) and not having extensive travel as part of our honeymoon (we went on a cruise that left from our city).  It was great to start relaxing immediately!

6.  So glad my Maid/Matron of Honor insisted my mom put a chunk of leftover wedding cake in our freezer for when we got back.  We only got one bite each (during pictures, of course) and then got distracted.  It was so fun to actually enjoy a piece of our own cake the night we returned from our honeymoon.

7.  Having flowers that I LOVED!  Every time I look at the pictures I see my flowers and burst into a smile!!!

8.  So glad I wrote thank you notes as gifts came in pre-wedding.  It was so nice to have a nice chunk done and then the ones for the gifts we received @ the wedding weren’t so overwhelming!

9.  Loved it that I took 2 days off of work pre-wedding and 2 days off of work post-honeymoon.  It definitely helped make things more relaxing and less stressful!


1. I would have been more specific in communicating with family members RE pictures.  We took pictures with out families by ourselves pre-ceremony since we weren’t planning on seeing each other.  We were planning on taking pictures together with our families post-ceremony.  My family didn’t quite get that memo and when we were ready for them for pictures they were already at the reception site.  It makes me sad that i don’t have a picture of my hubby & I with my entire extended family.  So glad my parents stayed, at least!

2.  I would have had someone make sure my dress & train were laying properly for pictures.  When I look at a few of the full length ones, I think “Dang, I wish someone would have fixed that for me!”

3.  Before pictures I would have explained to all male family members that if they wanted to put their arm behind my back, they could not rest it firmly on my back!  THey didn’t really get this concept which resulted in my veil coming off as I was walking down the aisle after the ceremony!  No big deal but I wish I had explained it to them!

Post # 38
409 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

this is the best thread ever!

Post # 39
289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I have one piece of advice: Do Not Worry About the Weather. It doesn’t do a bit of good. I spent the ten days before our outdoor wedding OBSESSING about the weather–even though I booked the place not worried about it at all.  I checked three different weather sources at least 20 times a day and each of them said something different and changed daily, if not more.  It really spoiled the week leading up to the wedding for me. A few days prior to the wedding it looked like it was all going to be fine. They called for rain Thursday and Friday but ALL weather reports indicated the Saturday (wedding day) would be PERFECT.  It wasn’t. It was the gloomiest day I have ever witnessed in my life. The rain held off though, that is until I was literally walking down the aisle!!  But you know what–hair held up perfectly, guests could have cared less, and the picutres are awesome!!  I wasted a lot of time and energy on worrying about something, that in the end, didn’t matter at all!

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