(Closed) What did you realize during planning?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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165 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Making sure that my Fiance and I are doing what we want for our wedding and not letting other peoples visons interfere. We are extremely happy and pleased with what we are doing now and how things are progressing along, but some days we really wish we could have done the biggest thing we wanted to do and just do a simple courthouse wedding with a dinner reception. Since we compromised with family on that, we are not settling for anything less.

Post # 4
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349 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I agree with Bear9206. We’re not married yet (September!) but we’ve been planning for about a year now, and I think that it’s extrememly important to do what you can to keep others’ feeling at heart, but in the end, you need to do what YOU want (especially if you’re footing the whole bill).

Another big lesson we learned: we unfortunately found out who our real friends are. We NEVER expected to have any problems with our wedding party. In fact, we expected everything to go wrong except our close family and friends. However, my fiance had a lot of problems with his groomsmen, and in the end, he realized that they were really awful people and he lost two relationships at no fault of his own. It put a lot of stress on both of us. But I guess, in a way, it worked out because now we won’t waste any more time with those two people.

Post # 5
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1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I realized how much I love my family and I am lucky they are always there for me even if they are far–they are are travelling to be with me as in all 14 of my immediate family aw  and 9 first cousins

Post # 6
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937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Well we are not getting any help financially and so our budget is really small. At first I threw myself a pity party over it but then I realized that as long as I get to marry him, that is the most important thing to me!

Also, as Bear9206 said, I have to remind myself it’s MY wedding not other people’s. It’s about what I want and what will make me happy.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2009

My husband and I did the Justice of the Peace thing on Halloween of 2008 and did a full pagan ceremony just two weeks ago and I thought it would be no big deal since we were actually already MARRIED but I couldn’t have been further from the truth!.

Our reception had a Mardi Gras theme and it was the best time because we stuck to our vision of what we wanted and as a result everyone our guests included had a great time!

Post # 8
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624 posts
Busy bee

People’s true colors show, even more so.

The day IS about me and Fiance, not about getting back at someone and other childish behavior that we’ve had to deal with from family members.

I still want to elope [possibly] even more so since becoming engaged.

Yes, the most important part of the wedding is that at the end of the day I marry the man I love.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

During planning, I realized I don’t care about much in the wedding, but I do care about silly little things like what the cake looks like.

During planning I realized that my wedding isn’t my special day.  My special day already happened when my FH and I decided we wanted to be together and share our life.  That was what was important.

During planning I realized that my parents divorce will still be my problem even now that I’m an adult. I always thought once I married, I would have my own family and my problems with my divorced parents would be solved. They’re not.  I realized I need to accept that I have to deal with this and try not to feel guilty about things that are not my fault.

During planning I realized how little my FH and I disagree and how easily we make decisions together. That was important too.

During planning I realized who in my life is positive and who is negative. Those who are positive oo’d and aw’d about my decisions and shared in my happiness.

 

 

 

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