(Closed) What did you receive – cash vs. gifts vs. # of guests?

posted 9 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 92
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

The hive mentality at it again…sigh 🙁

Post # 93
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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Post # 94
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@blueskies7:  Cool it, señorita. I don’t recall the OP complaining about her gifts. She was just asking what other people received. I hardly think you need to berate her because she didn’t act up to your standards. What she did and didn’t do at her wedding has nothing to do with this thread.

Post # 95
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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Post # 96
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If I can remember correctly, my answer to your question is:

225 guests in attendance

under 20 physical gifts

$13,000 in cash and

 

Our 25th Wedding Anniversary is in 2 days!!  and…

 

 

We have none left!! lol

Post # 97
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Helper bee

Gosh, I really want a cupcake right now

Post # 98
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Snow00774:  yup. You said it sista.

  This post went kind of nuts! And I don’t think her question was out of line at all. You can ask what size penis my SO has or what size diamond and how much was it?  but asking what the norm in gift giving/money is the worst question ever? Wowza

  OP I give you credit for being as calm as you were during this post!!!!

 

 ANYWAY… I’m not married yet. But where I’m from we give gifts for shower and cash for wedding. We ( SO and I ) usually give $300 to friends and family, and we gave my brother $1000 because he has helped us out so much in the past. Our best friends got married last month and we gave them $500 so I guess it just depends. We are very generous people but I’m pretty sure the norm around here is 75-100 single or 150 -200 couple.

 

 And p.s you didn’t sound ungrateful!

Post # 100
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@McFierce:  Thanks- now to try and fill the house :p 

To myself and everyone I know it is more practical to gift money to help out the new couple but that’s a personal opinion. As for the amount there were many people that just gave so much more than we could of imagined. My brother married 5yrs ago and had 140 guests (many of them were at our wedding) and received around 13k but had a registry and a lot was gifted from it. 

Post # 101
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Loose_Caboose: I could’ve phrased it somewhat differently. But I do think she’s lucky for getting that much money without offering a real meal and skipping her own after party. I WOULD question my friendship with the bride/groom if they decided to skip an after party with the guests…they’re people that helped them til 4am, took time to attend the ceremony, gifted them nicely and attended an after party. I am personally not a fan of skipping on a full dinner during a dinner time reception. It’s just how I feel, lol at my entire post getting deleted.

Post # 102
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@j_jaye:  In her other post she clearly states that “His mom got talking to us for TWO HOURS and so we never made it out to the bar.”  I think it is a stretch to state that she missed the afterparty because she was “antying up” her gifts. Who cares if she went home after her wedding and opened her 20 cards, it is not “distasteful” to open your gifts and keep a list of them.

There are obviously people on these boards that hold a grudge against the OP for whatever reason, although I have not been offended by any of her previous posts.  I feel a little “Mean Girls” action happening around here and it frankly leaves a bad taste in my mouth.

Post # 103
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Woah, I did not expect all of that!

OP, I can’t answer your post yet as we’re not getting married until next year, but I’m not expecting a lot.  Many of our guests will be students or not long in work, and ours is one of the first weddings within our friendship group, so I imagine a lot of them won’t bring gifts at all (which is totally cool – I’m just excited to have them all there!).  In terms of family, we’re receiving a lot of DIY help from various family members, and services (hairdresser, DJ, cake etc) are being gifted, so I’m not expecting anything extra from them either.

Post # 104
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Culturally, my side of the family gives cash only. We DID have a registry but only two things were purchased off of it (which is perfectly fine). We mostly got cash without asking. =)

We had 24 guests at our destination wedding and having our guests there was gift enough~

Post # 105
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Jer72:  Me too a piece of my wedding cake is in the freezer and now you have me wanting it.

Post # 106
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Honey bee

OP, to answer your question, we had approximately 300 people attend our wedding, and we received probably about 90% cash and 10% boxed gifts. I would say in all, we received almost $20,000 from our guests in cash. We had some extremely generous family and friends and were very lucky. We received so much more than we ever expected from our guests.

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