What did you regret spending too much on or not enough at your wedding?

posted 2 years ago in Money
Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

juneweddingbee :  I wish I hadn’t gotten gold flatware. Once the lights were dim, you couldn’t really tell it was gold lol. It was pointless lol

Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

juneweddingbee :  too much on the whole wedding, not enough on the honeymoon. To clarify, we had a very casual 70 ppl wedding, for $10k, we couldn’t afford a honeymoon at all. I would have rather eloped and had a honeymoon. 

Post # 18
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331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I was really happy with everything at our 10/7/17 wedding and:

Super happy with decision to have a pro musician friend from high school play music during our ounch reception.  Everyone raved.

Super happy with feel good comfy foods for reception, nothing super fancy.  It was mac and cheese and pulled pork sliders but high end nonetheless!!

I wished I had trimmed my hair and insisted on using aquanet to hold my hair in place!!!  Seriously my hair is fine and soft, our wedding was outdoors, it was muggy.  The best photos were in the beginning but my hair began to wilt…..oh well.  It is just hair!

Can’t say we overspent.  Super happy we bought seal and send invites for $65.00.  Super happy I bought gold flats for $3.50 to wear! 

SUPER HAPPY with my $60 dress off Amazon.  No need for an expensive dress.  

People loved our short ceremony, excellent food and awesome music.  And people were out adn on their way by 3pm!!!  Happy happy!!!

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee

i probably would have spent less on the bridesmaids gifts. I love to gift give and way overdid it with their gifts. I have heard they like everything they got and have seen them use some of the items I gifted them…  But they certainly didn’t need all of it. It all just adds up quickly and if I am being honest they didn’t do that much (not to be snarky or anything). I feel like maybe if they had helped with the wedding I would have felt more validated in going crazy on the gift giving, but I felt crazy when I was putting together their gifts. Lol 

On that note, I wish we would have done a little bit more for our parents. They helped us with so much with the wedding, but they insisted that they didn’t want anything so we just got them little gifts when they deserved so much more. 

I would have loved to spend more for a second photographer. We were doing so many group shots throughout the night that I wish I had more pictures of the actual party or the decor that I busted my butt to put together. Lol the shots he did get were stunning, I just wish there were more of our guests. 

Post # 20
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2754 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I (surprisingly) have zero spending regrets for our wedding!

 

Glad we splurged on:

Amazing venue

Completely open bar (not just wine/beer)

Extra appetizers for cocktail hour and late-night snacks

Two photographers for 9 hours

Pro hair and makeup for myself and bridesmaids

Buying the flower girl/ring bearer outfits (as opposed to making their parents pay)

String duo for ceremony/cocktail hour

 

Glad we saved by:

DIYing all flowers (fresh in bulk from Costco)

DIYing our wedding cake with my mom

Dress and veil from Etsy

All DIY decor/invitations/save the dates 

Simple centrepieces

No engagement shoot

No bridal accessories: only my mom’s pearl earrings and fresh roses in my hair

Renting speakers/mixing deck for $150 CAN and having my cousin DJ

Post # 21
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290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Spent too much on an Arch…it was like $150 after delivery/setup fees and I didn’t even end up liking the way it turned out.  I liked the image they sent me of the florals they had done on it for a previous wedding but I really didn’t like what they did for ours. It was essentiall a massive bundle of roses and greenery swag piece in the center of a wrought iron arch. It looked really off to me and we used it for all of 15 minutes? We got married in an orchard so we could have just used that as a natural arch. Regrets!

I wish I could have spent a little more on flowers. I had a flower crown which was awesome, but she used pretty delicate wildflowers in lieu of more expensive flowers and they got absolutely crushed.  I also had to go for finnesse roses instead of Juliette roses because of the cost and I wish I didn’t have to make that choice because I didn’t realise that finesse roses can be quite yellow and I wanted a blush color. 

Post # 22
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Bee Keeper

Decorations-  we went all out on decorations and ended up spending hours the evening before getting the venue ready. In hindsight I would’ve either seriously dialled down the decorations or hired someone to do it. 

 

Post # 23
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429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017 - Canvas Event Space

The limo we rented at the last minute was such a waste of money and a bit of stress tbh. We only needed it one way and to take us to one location for photos on the way and he yelled at me twice because we were 10 minutes late for the pickup and was pissy the whole drive there.

He wouldn’t tell us how to turn the music on or change the station once we figured it out. Someone also blasted the AC by accident (because everything was trial and error) and it was freezing and he wouldn’t tell us how to turn that off, either.

It was the worst, most expensive 25 minute drive ever. I wish we had just got a couple of Uber SUVs.

Post # 25
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331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

juneweddingbee :  You are welcome!  I would also like to add that people remember:  a short meaningful ceremony, great food and being thanked by the couple for coming.  Have enough seats for everyone (you would be surprised…..)  Also, when it is over do thank you notes ASAP.  People remember that stuff!!  Don’t worry about favors, guest books, programs, etc.  Enjoy your day!!!

Post # 26
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6592 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

juneweddingbee :  We probably should have sprung for a better photographer, but I’m so cheap I just couldn’t stomach the idea of spending thousands on that as many do.  I think had I known the weather would be so crappy I’d have shelled out more though – she did her best but clearly wasn’t experienced with darker indoor lighting.  Plus she didn’t quite ‘get’ what I was wanting when I asked for photos from a distance (not our ceremony!) or walking away shots.  It doesn’t help that I love photography and wished I could pull the camera out of her hands to set up shots that still included me (and I’m totally amateur, it would be so wrong of me).

Spending less?  Nothing.  We had an inexpensive wedding and as such I regret none of the things we actually did spend money on.  Sure it would have looked nice to go nuts with flowers, linens and special china, etc but it’s not practical and doesn’t go with our wedding style, so we didn’t do it in the first place.

Post # 27
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176 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

forestfaerie :  What would you recommend for putting more into a rehearsal?  Would love some tips!

Post # 28
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1593 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

sunworshipbride :  less. way less. go basic on the food. the rehearsal is literally just to get everyone together to eat and have fun. get basic but good food, enough for everyone to have a couple drinks, but not too many, go to someone’s house or backyard our your place if you have room, use the church basement if you have that many people.

The rehearsal is not so important, that you have to go all out. You don’t need decor, or anything fancy.

For myself:

I wish we had spent more on the DJ and had him MC, because in the end it would’ve gone a little smoother, but really no one noticed so it’s sort of insignificant but oh well.

I wish I’d gone with my gut instinct, made them re-order my dress in a different size, and then taken that dress to a different seamstress, my regular girl, for alterations, because the girl at the bridal salon I took it to totally messed up and it was STILL too long the day of (even though I heard the MANAGER of the store take another inch off, and way over paid for alterations even though the seamstress FORGOT to bring my dress to an appointment)

Post # 29
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171 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

The only thing I regret – is having so many cupcakes for guests. Dessert came with our meal – and cupcakes were additional. Wish I would have put take home containers or something so we didn’t end up with so many leftovers!   We also gave cookies as favours – which were a hit – none left!! 

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee

lurkingvee :  I feel you on this, my mom’s a hairdresser too, I love her to death and she knows how to manage my thick wavy/curly hair well. But for my first wedding her vision for me and my vision for me we’re too different things and of course I ended up having her vision for me. My second time I’m paying someone to come and do our hair and makeup, and I’m getting around my mom being hurt be explaining does she really want to haul all of that hair stuff to our destination wedding. 

I love having her as my hairdresser, but sometimes it’s a battle of wills over my hair.

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