Post # 1
When you were planning (or dreaming, before the planning started) was there anything that you thought you had to have that you ended up skipping in the end?
For me it was:
– A veil. I LOVE veils and looked forward to my opportunity to wear one, but once I chose my dress I realized it was just too much “look” for my beach DW with my particular dress.
– Engagement photos. Since our photographer was not from our area (DW) we didn’t have engagement photos. I love love love engagement photos, but I figured that we can get casual photos done any time we like, so it’s not such a big deal.
Post # 2
cbgg: I swore that my reception wouldn’t be complete without colored tablecloths and napkins. Everyone talked me out of it and I never missed it! Lol
Post # 3
Dessert table. My wedding is so small that it would go to waste. As it is, I’m having a two tier cake, which is more than double I need.
A veil. I don’t want to cover up my dress, or spend $100-$200 on something I’ll only wear for an hour. Plus, I’m not really into them.
Wedding ring. I know most women would think I’m crazy because it’s so symbolic and something you’ll wear forever, but I love my engagement ring so much that I don’t want to add bulk.
Post # 5
cbgg: There were a few things we thought were expected and then once we realized we didn’t want them, got rid of them:
-Wedding party. Saved us money and a ton of drama. We only had my 4-year-old niece as flower girl.
-Longer ceremony. Our ceremony lasted right at 10 minutes and was perfect. Everybody kept saying how much they loved it because it “was quick and to the point”.
ETA: Oh! Welcome baskets and favors. Not necessary.
Post # 6
STD, engagment pictures, welcome bags, fancy chairs for reception, decorations for church, and seating chart
Post # 7
i wanted a minimalist wedding so that was what i planned for. my mother, who paid for it, had other ideas. so my must have list was very small.
my mom thought we must have fancy rented chairs. i told her no, we are keeping the chairs the hotel provides at no additional cost. and many other things.
Post # 8
I chucked a bunch of stuff right from the begining. But my dad was mildly obsessed with monogramed cocktail napkins. He brought it up several times. I didn’t want them because I knew we’d have left overs and it’s easier to reuse if they don’t have our names and wedding date on them. But apparently it’s not really a wedding without personalized cocktail napkins! And my grandmother had a hard time coming to grips with the fact that I didn’t want a veil. But it worked out.
Post # 9
Day of transporation. It seemed there were none locally to where we were getting married, and we would have to pay a trip charge of $50-$100 just to get there, $300 for several hours (when we both thought an hour was over kill) We ran the numbers and it just didn’t make sense for what we were getting.
Post # 10
JenGirl: “But apparently it’s not really a wedding without personalized cocktail napkins!”
That’s hilarious! It’s funny the little things that others can fixate on.
My sister decided not to have a wedding cake at her wedding and somehow people kept hearing about this. She had no less than THREE of my parents friends offer to buy her a wedding cake. She was getting pretty annoyed by the end of it. It’s not that she couldn’t afford a wedding cake, she just didnt’ want one and had already planned a nice dessert. Some people were so upset about it before hand, but I didn’t hear a word about it at the wedding.