(Closed) What did you wish you asked at your venue meeting?

posted 6 years ago in Venue
Post # 3
582 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I have a meeting with my top choice venue next week as well and am very interested in seeing what people say! I am so bad with coming up with questions to ask and know I will forget or not even think of some big ones! I want to see what people say! 🙂 

Post # 4
5273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Make sure EVERYTHING is written down & down assume anything. 

Important questions: what is provided (be very specific,) and example would be they say tables are included, you need to specify- what kind? does this include a guestbook table, desset table, buffet tables, etc?

Be sure to clarify set up & tear down and cleaning policies.

Again on anything they say they can include, just as very specific follow up questions for each item.  

Post # 6
1747 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

This is stupid, but my one question I wish I should have asked (since I basically asked all others through email and they were well documented, answered speedily, and executed) was that the napkins be folded over my menus. LOL.

That’s a small detail that drives me CUHRAZY in pictures. 

Another detail that is important if you have a venue with its own catering that is providing you with the meal is if you can bring in outside food for the favors (if you have a food favor). There are often liability concerns if they are baked outside premises, so make sure if you want those food favors, you get in writing that it’s ok.

Also, while thinking about this, I realized that I never asked how many hor d’evoures would be served per person on estimate. I was not really present during cocktail hour and most people seemed satisfied with it but I still want to know if it was bountiful or if people were chasing down waiters and waitresses for small morsels. I am hoping all was ok!

Post # 7
828 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Can the rentals be picked up the following day. The rental company will charge a “stand by fee” if they have to come at the end of the night and remove the rental items.

Post # 8
582 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@mholden:  Thanks! I printed off a bunch of questions from herecomestheguide so I am hoping that I cover it all or they just tell me everything I need to know haha I am just so anxious to see the venue in person finally! I am planning long distance so I am sure there will be a ton of communication/coordination done via email

Post # 9
233 posts
Helper bee

This a great thread!  I am meeting with my venue tomorrow!! Thanks for the list mholden!  And to all the other bees for posting their thoughts so far, too!

Post # 10
1230 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

The ONE thing that I should have asked is who is in charge of handing out the champagne for the toast!!!  The Bridesmaid or Best Man said his toast we look down and no champagne!  My MOM was PISSED and she never usually speaks up but she did for this.  Supposedly the hall’s waitresses were supposed to and they were not told when?  Um that’s like one of the first things.  That really pissed me off.

Post # 12
1274 posts
Bumble bee

One big question…is just to generally ask about ‘extra fees’. A corking fee per bottle. A cake cutting fee if it’s an outside vendor that is doing the cake. Sometimes they charge for this. 

A fee for using a credit card to pay the venue as opposed to cash/cheque. 

Also if there is a cost difference for having options for meals. Say they charge 79$ a plate for beef but you also want to offer chicken or fish, is there a cost per person to give the option. At my venue this was an issue, but we are only going to offer a meat and a vegetarian option. Not a biggie, but it’s important to know. 

Can you put tape/tacks, etc to hang decorations?

What happens if there’s a fire/flood/etc at the venue, do you have an alternate solution if the venue is unusable for the wedding?

Does your caterer cover vendor meals (photog, videog, dj)?

Definitely get everything in writing! 🙂

Post # 13
701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Ask about open flames policy if you want candles, and set up and break down times (in writing). At my MOH’s wedding we were told we could come set up the night before (they didn’t say it would cost us) and then they made her pay for room rental when we got there.

Post # 14
33 posts
  • Wedding: October 2012

Make sure you read through the contract very carefully (ask to have it sent to you to look over before you go in to sign).  Remember that you can ask them to make changes (I’ve found that vendors are generally pretty cool with adding more detail to their contracts ).

There has been some turnover at our venue so the person that we are dealing with now is not the same person who we dealt with when first looking at the venue and signing our contract.  We spent a lot of time asking them to add and clarify items in their contract and I am so so grateful that we did, because we have already had several situations where the new contact person is telling us differently than the last person did.  My only regret is that we did think of more items to add to the contract


Mostly we had them clarify some areas that were poorly written, but there are afew things that I am very glad we added and another I wish we had:

-specify exactly which space you will have (I’ve heard of venues showing you the biggest ballroom when you book, but then bumping to a smaller ballroom if a bigger group comes in later)

-Our venue has a food and drink minimum (which I think is pretty common, but we were not informed of this before being given the contract so it came as quite a shock).  It turns out that the 26% gratuity and tax is included in the minimum which makes a huge difference so we asked that this be specified in the contract.  Since they have changed their tune on several other things I’m sooo glad this one was added!

-We were told that when they do a wedding that is the only function there that day and I wish I had thought to ask them to add that to the contract.  When it came to specifying the starting time we weren’t really sure what to put since it was so early in the planning stage.  They told me it was just a place holder so I made the best guess I could at the time.  When we went back and ask to change it later we were told we could not because there was another function earlier in the day. 


Post # 15
22 posts
  • Wedding: May 2013

Be sure you are aware of the service charge and tax. It can catch you off guard and have a huge increase in the overall price you’re paying!!

Most venues here have service charges ranging from 20 to 24% plus the 6% state tax. So, if your total food and beverage comes out to be $10,000, essentially, you will be paying an additional $2,600 to $3,000. Something to be aware of.

Also, some venues will not let you bring in your own cake, they expect you to use their cake or else they charge a fee per person. In most cases the fee is so expensive that you have no other option than to use their cake.

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