What did you wish you knew before giving birth?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 16
2765 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

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kes18 :  I believe an episiotomy is equivalent to a fourth degree tear. Yikes bee!

ETA: hmmm I’d always thought that the surgical incisions were made from the vaginal opening all the way to the anus but it seems I was mistaken. 🤗 my bad. 

Post # 17
9818 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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MrsHarryDresden :  haha no, definitely not a 4th degree tear!  Yikes.  No, it’s equivalent to a second.  I think I’d remember if I had a 4th degree tear laughing  But there definitely was a bee who detailed out her 4th degree tear and healing in a post if you search it out.

Post # 18
8743 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

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DoubleD :  There are a lot of factors when it comes to how your body recovers and most women only hear the horror stories. I had a 2nd degree tear and the first couple weeks are a bit rough while it heals, but by my 6 week appointment I felt fine and my midwife said it doesn’t even look like I had a baby. I was back to my pre-preggo weight in a week (thanks breastfeeding!) and I literally have one stretch mark (I call it my new daughter tattoo lol). We are 8 weeks out now and I haven’t tried having sex yet not because I’m afraid it will be a physical issue but just because I’m still so tired…

Post # 19
917 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception / Courtyard Marriott Legacy Ballroom

I wish I knew to ease up on pushing while the baby is crowning! My OB told me to stop pushing too late and I ended up with a 2nd degree tear. Recovery wasn’t too bad – I was walking around within a day – but I’d like to try to prevent tearing this time.

I wish I would have done my own research on pushing beforehand instead of relying so much on my OB – there were so many things that weren’t covered in the classes I took. This time, I’ve done some research! I’m going to try to listen more to my body and try to breath through contractions rather than holding my breath and pushing as hard as I could. Slow and steady is better for your body than trying to get through things quickly!

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