Post # 1
Like as your opener? Everything I write sounds either really lame or annoyingly repetitive. Darling Husband insisted on pre printing something in the cards so they already say “Thank you for thinking of us on our special day!”.
We wanted to be able to use them for both those who attended and those who didn’t but still sent a gift. Now I don’t know what to put afterwards to beef it up before diving into the gifts.
Post # 3
Haven’t even had the wedding yet but I imagine I’ll put something along the lines of…
Dear XX, Thank you so much for _______, we will definitely put it to good use! We are so glad to have gotten to share our special day with you, thank you for thinking of us! Love, Mr. & Mrs.
for people who didn’t attend, Dear XX, thank you so much for ____, we will definitely put it to good use! We’re sorry we missed you at the wedding, but thanks so much for thinking of us! Hope to see you soon, Mr. & Mrs.
The beauty of thank-you’s is no one compares what they say, so you can pretty much write the same generic repetitive thing on every card (replacing the gift and tweaking it obviously) and no one would ever know!! You could also write a personal message, but that’s your choice!
Post # 4
Depends on the person. I wrote two paragraphs to each person and didnt acknowledge the gift to paragraph two. So for example
It was so nice of you to travel from… to celebrate with us. your Blue dress was stunning…
It was the first time I have seen your entire family in one place since…
I remember when you were getting married and I was sitting there thinking…
My husband told me about you from the first week we were dating, and everything he said is so true. You are….
I made it personal.
I disagree abour not comparing. me, my mom, my aunt, and a few other people had the EXACT same wording for a thank you note we received from someone. And some how, it came out.
Post # 5
I may be a bit old fashioned, but there’s nothing like a hand-written thank you, again just in my opinion. I say personalize it accordingly, with “titles” ex. Aunt Susie, Uncle Joe, etc. and maybe addressing/acknowledging what they got you and how you cant WAIT to use it for x, y and z. Best of Luck!
Post # 6
@UpstateCait: I tried to add something personal within each thank you, such as a moment that I/we shared with him/her/family on our special day. For those that gave us cash gifts, I explained how we planned to utilize the funds (down payment on new home, dinner during honeymoon, etc.). Of course, there are a lot of great references online too if you google wedding thank you ideas. Good luck, friend!
Post # 7
@lefeymw: That’s basically how mine went too. I tried to make it as personal as possible. I kept some similar wording, but made sure each one stated something specific to that family.
I also asked Darling Husband sign every single one and write notes to the people who were specifically his friends/family. The gifts were to both of us, not just me, so I wanted his friends and family to hear from him. If his handwriting wasn’t so terrible, we would have split them equally, but we compromised. He licked the envelopes and put on stamps for me too. 🙂
Post # 8
@piglet_625: I agree with getting your hubby involved! Mine wrote them to all of his immediate family and friends that attended. He also signed them all.
Post # 9
I try to get specific in my thank you’s. I thank them for the gift and mention it by name and how we will use it. If it is cash or a gift card, I indicate what we plan to use it for (new dishes, honeymoon, etc.) I think it is ok to use the same structure and similar wording in each thank you, but adding that spefic touch to each one shows you took the time and really appreciate the person!
Post # 10
None of mine were the same I don’t think. Most stared “Thank you so much for the gift” And then I did a personal message. Like “It meant so much to us both that you were able to come to share in our special day with us” or ” I can not tell you how thrilled we were that you were able to make it…” I just went with what I really felt like for each person so they were all different. I made it more about thanking them for coming rather than the gift. When I was writing them out it just felt fake, for me, to say “thanks for the crystal bowl we can’t wait to use it” so i generalized the gift. And for people who could not attend i said something like…” we were very sorry that you couldnt make it but we cant wait to show you some pictures the next time we get together.” Good luck, I had a tough time with them, I had to just make myself sit down one night and do them all.
Post # 11
I avoided saying “thank you for the gift” in the first line to avoid sounding to focused on receiving gifts.
Mine went something like this:
Thank you so much for coming our to share in our wedding day. We were both so happy to see you both. Thank you for (adjective) gift. We used/display it like this. We really would love to have you over soon to use gift/catch up/etc
I tried to mix up the wording with each one, so it was never exactly the same. I think its important to mention the specific gift and really try to talk about how you specific have/will use it. “This waffle iron will be perfect for making grandmas special reciepe” “We would love to have you over to try out our bbq” “we look forward to hosting holidays this year using your beautiful dinnerware”
I felt like my thank yous weren’t very amazing, but I’ve gotten a lot of feedback that people were shocked that I actually took the time to write out personlized notes. They’ve all gotton use to generic cards.
Post # 12
@piglet_625: Good point! We did a random sort and he did about a 1/3 of them and I did 2/3rds of the thank you notes.
Post # 13
Darling Husband helped me write our thank you notes 🙂
Mine went something like this:
Darling Husband and I just wanted to take a moment to say thank you so much for coming to our wedding and for the lovey ***** you gave us.
We had such a wonderful day and felt so blessed that so many of your family and friends were able to celebrate with us.
We tried to mix it up so each card was slightly different (and personalised depending on the guest and the gift) but you get the general idea. Darling Husband was actually really good at writing the thank you’s to our families and close friends, he was a big help!