- 10 years ago
- Wedding: November 1999
I’m pretty lucky to have generous, loving in-laws. However, it wasn’t always that way…we’re a continuous work-in-progress, but for the wedding, my mother-n-law gifted us $8K and my father-in-law gifted us $2K, though my father-in-law did have to give a monetary offering to my parents of $18,888, of which my parents kept $8,888 and returned $10K as part of the traditional Chinese dowry for the bride. My mother’s asking price was $8,888, plus gifts of a whole suckling pig, 24k gold jewelry, and pairs of Chinese delicacies such as abalone, Hennessy XO cognac, birds’ nests, ect…..which was pretty elaborate. The most surprising thing of all was that my in-laws agreed to all of the "requests" without complaint; surprising because we’ve had our differences in the past, but it helps when both parties can forgive and start anew.
My inlaws were overly generous. It is a theme with them, and I will probrably fight it until the day I die. I’m simply not used to it.
My In Laws were super generous and have us a large amount of money to do with as we wished (wedding, house, save for future). My parents on the other hand surprised me by giving us nothing. They did not contribute to the wedding. No card, no gift.
I know weddings are not about gifts, but they are my parents and to this day, I am still hurt by their attitude.
We received a refrigerator from my in-laws, plus about $1000 towards our wedding. Most of that went for the reception and the rest to get our getaway car (his dad’s ’73 Chevelle) running. They don’t have much, but they do give what they can.
My in laws paid for our flowers and the rehearsal dinner, but also gifted us with several gifts off of our registery – all of our flatware, serving pieces, and some other items they thought we’d get to use a lot.
My parents gave us $10,000 towards the wedding, $1,000 towards the groom’s attire, our traditional Korean outfits (han-boks), and bedding items (comforters, etc).
We feel so lucky that our parents were so generous and supportive.
Good to know my ILs aren’t the only crazy ones. My Brother-In-Law got us a Macy’s gift card, and then had to borrow the money to pay the pastor, which he had said he would do. My SIL got us an espresso machine, which was not only not on our registry, but was bright red, which goes with nothing in our kitchen. When we tried to return it, it turned out not to be a model sold ANYWHERE. When Darling Husband finally asked her, she said she had picked it up on sale at some little place where she lives, and hadn’t kept the receipt. I ended up gifting it to a friend of mine who is redoing her kitchen with red small appliances, and who also took a ton of photos at our Rehearsal Dinner and wedding.
My in-laws gave us some money, paid for some of the reception, paid for the invitations, and got us a little gift for our kitchen! They are always generous!! We appreciate all they do!
I have very generous inlaws and they gave us $5,000 to use for the rehearsal dinner, plus toward the wedding. Also, they paid for half our photographer’s fees and they paid for all the tuxes for the wedding. On top of that they gave us a set of 3 candle holders with candles and two rolls of stamps to use on our thank you cards.
My parents got us a piece of art, which we would never have picked out for ourselves, but which was such a delightful surprise! My parents collect this kind of art, and I had never thought to get a piece myself. The thought alone was a lovely gift.
I think the roll of stamps for thank you cards is the best idea for a wedding gift I’ve ever heard of. Mind if I use that in an upcoming wedding? 😉
You don’t have an option for "paid for part of wedding and gave gift." My IL’s paid for the rehearsal dinner and gave us an heirloom-quality mantle clock.
I was going to go with "nothing", but on reflection they did host a lovely rehearsal dinner and I don’t know why I never considered that the generous gift that it was…. (Considering that my parents didn’t help at all with the wedding, theirs was in fact the biggest contribution.) Ungrateful Tulip!
mil gave us some money, then 3 weeks later gave us a large check to pay for a new HVAC system for the house we bought. fil is doing half of the construction work on our new house, so essentially his gift is labor, expertise and tools.
<span class=”postby”> lilneko69, i know the feeling. my parents gave us an obviously cheap card and only signed their names. for me it’s the lack of effort that hurts so much.
they helped pay for parts of the wedding
My in-laws gave us a bunch of money for a down payment for our house, plus they hosted a beautiful rehearsal, paid for the flowers and photographer, and contributed to the reception cost as well. They are so generous, my Mother-In-Law also took me out to get all my ‘accessories’ for my wedding dress, shoes, underwear etc. I am so grateful to them!!
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