(Closed) What do I call this after-party/2nd reception?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Honestly, I think you’re finding a difficult time coming up with a name for the second party because you know it will offend people.

Could you just have the ceremony later and have the aforementioned ‘after party’ AS your reception?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

There is a difference between a truly private ceremony (which is immediate family only) and a 50 person event.  You are having 2 wedding receptions, and having one for people who will not have the privilege of seeing you married, which is what a reception thanks guests for.

This isn’t a matter of confusion, what you’re planning is a tiered reception and is not suggested, honestly. 

Let the family and party crowd mingle until the family decide to go to bed.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Tsk, I think some of the other reactions are pretty strong ;P Only because something is the norm in the US doesn’t make it any better than other options ๐Ÿ˜‰

Around here what you suggest is pretty much how everyone does it – we have a ceremony which is open to anyone who recieved the wedding announcement/invitation (analogy to your STDs), then we have a reception (usually lunch) – only people who recieved a reception invite attend (which is fewer than how many recieved the invitation to the ceremony, usually close family and closest friends, sitdown formal affair) and in the evening (or few days/weeks later) we throw a wedding party for all our friends – casual, loud – exactly what you would want.

I think as long as it is clear that the formal affair is for close family, everyone can attend the ceremony and the party is well separated (some couples trow the party weeks after the wedding and it could be your solution if more people frown upon your situation) from the reception you shouldn’t feel bad ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

How about a Celebration Show/Concert?

Or a Concert/Show in celebration of our marriage?

 That way people will get the idea its going to be loud and choose to come or not.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Hm, that’s a tough one. Generally, I don’t like tiered receptions, and I think doing the garter toss/bouquet toss at this event seems weird and inappropriate. This would make it a reception and it’s really not your reception as you’re not 100% hosting the guests, and many of the guests also didn’t come to your ceremony.

I think, aside from that, you could honestly make it work without stepping on any toes. Are you leaving for your honeymoon shortly after the wedding? Perhaps you could call it a “send off” and just word it as if it’s an open house style gathering where people can come celebrate the new Mr & Mrs, congratulate you and “send you off” on your honeymoon…?

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I think maybe something like post-wedding celebration might work. I’m inclined to go with after-party, but if you don’t like that, then don’t use it. Everyone you’re inviting will already know they missed the actual ceremony and reception, so I don’t see the problem with “after party.” Being a stickler for etiquette myself, I do not think your plan is offensive or rude or impolite. You just have to be honest about what it is so that guests don’t mistake their invitation to this party for an invitation to a reception and then find out that’s not the case. That is what would make it impolite. Just be as clear as possible that you are having an open celebration that is not part of the wedding-proper. Then guests will know that they aren’t required to bring a gift, etc.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

@nmarie33:  I like the send-off option too!

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Oh, and I would not do any traditional wedding-reception events at this party (garter, bouquet, cake-cutting, etc.).

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@nmarie33:  Glad I could help ๐Ÿ™‚ Honestly, it sounds like fun & I think you could do it without any etiquette breaches if you word things appropriately and don’t do traditional “reception” traditions there.

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