(Closed) What do I do?

posted 4 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
1252 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I haven’t done my STD’s or invites yet, but from what I read, especially on this board, is that it’s normal that at least 20% of your guests will decline, so just go ahead and send out the full 320. I doubt everyone will accept unless you’re super close and/or related.

Also, in my opinion, it is rude to not send out an invitation to someone whom you had already sent out a STD to.

Post # 3
72 posts
Worker bee

Completely agree with PP

Post # 4
583 posts
Busy bee

I wouldn’t worry at all, I’ve never heard of a single wedding with 100% rsvp rate. Usually it’s 50-80% depending on the time of the year, etc.

Post # 5
885 posts
Busy bee

With a guest list that large, you will have people decline! I had 480 invitees and only about 325 RSVP yes. 

Plus as PP stated it would be very rude to send out a STD and not an invite.


Post # 6
7527 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I had a 19% decline rate.

Post # 7
92 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I saw a chart once that compared decline rate to total invited but I can’t find it. 

I just found something though that said an average acceptance rate is 65% for out of town guests and 90% for local guests. 

Post # 8
3267 posts
Sugar bee

You should be a little nervous, but it will probably be ok. 

There are a lot of variables such as when is the wedding?  Is it local?  Are all the guests local? are you actually close to all those people?

If you invite someone you have to be prepared that they may say yes.  You have to be prepared to host them accordingly, should they come.  How embarassing it would be to have to uninvite someone after they had accepted. 

But….with so many people it is unlikely they would all be able to make it.  There are cases on this board, where people have overinvited and everyone said yes. 

Post # 9
1543 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

You will be fine inviting 320. I invited 120 and 100 came. I sent out Save-The-Date Cards way in advance. There were about ten cancellations in the last couple months- couples breaking up, people getting sick, etc. 

Post # 10
7357 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Don’t ever invite more than your venue can hold. Make your “A” list, send your STD’s and see how many people reply that they can’t attend. Even though it’s not an invite yet, some people will reply if they know they are not able to come. The alternative is risking having to dis-invite some people if everyone says yes, which is a real jerk move.

Post # 11
4940 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

JM3030:   Don’t invite more than your venue can hold.  In doing so you run the risk of putting yourself in the horrible position of having to “uninvite” people if you are over the limit.

Please have an A list, and as the regrets come in, send out more invitations.  

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