(Closed) WHAT DO I DO??

posted 9 years ago in Wellness
  • poll: A quick civil ceremony?
    yes : (88 votes)
    97 %
    no : (1 votes)
    1 %
    wait : (2 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    2474 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I would do it.  I think it’s romantic, anyway.  It’s up to you whether you want to tell anyone about it.

    Post # 4
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    3124 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    Hell yes! i won’t tell anybody.

    Post # 5
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    453 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    MAKE SURE THERE IS NOT A PREEXISTING CONDITION CLAUSE…before you do anything,  make sure he will be covered. He may need to lie about when the tooth broke…

    Post # 6
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    1250 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I would go for it and just not tell anybody.

    Post # 7
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    1638 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I’m with @Melissa- HELL YEAH. It’s his health, not just because you don’t want to wait. Also like @kcasam said, check your clauses before you rush to city hall.

    Post # 8
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    2703 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    go for it and keep it secret!

    Post # 9
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    1580 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’d make 100% certain your dental plan would cover him (like kcasam suggested) and also that your plan covers that type of treatment, and how much out of pocket expense you still may have even with the insurance to make sure it is worth it.

    Which tooth is it?

    Post # 9
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    683 posts
    Busy bee

    Ohmygosh. Go get that tooth fixed. It’s no one else’s business what you have to do to take care of each other’s health.

    Post # 10
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    662 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - The Mountain Terrace, Woodside, CA

    Depending on your company/where you live, you might not have to be married. If you live together and have either a joint checking account, joint credit card or joint mortgage together, you would qualify as a domestic partnership, according to my company’s insurance policy. You should definitely look into it, if all it takes is opening up a bank account together, that’s a lot easier!

    Post # 11
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    979 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I was going to suggest the same as cola: see if they accept “partners.”  My FI’s insurance does.  You just have to be living together as a couple.  But not all insurance companies allow this, unfortunately.

    Post # 13
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    2066 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Before you rush to city hall, figure out a few logistics.  Find out when his coverage is effective?  The day you get married?  What sort of documentation does your employer/health insurance company need to process before he’s covered?  Does the coverage prohibit pre-existing conditions? 

    Not sure what the laws are in Canada, but in Texas you have to have a marriage license 72 hours before you get married.  So that sort of thing might delay things a little more than you’d like. 

    Good luck!!

    Post # 14
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    3219 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I would just go get married!

    Post # 15
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    1932 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2008

    @bailey, I agree, just marry now.

    my fiance and I faced this as well. We bought a car together a couple weeks ago and had a ton of trouble with financing, firstly because we’re waiting til marriage to live together – so they see two people buying a car, who have different last names and different addresses, so they almost didn’t approve us for a loan. But the dealership we worked with was really great and said they wouldn’t allow them to penalize us for being moral (aww!)

    Well, now, the insurance is the issue. They put ME as the primary title holder, and my fiance and secondary, because he just moved to my state, and he has the out of state license. Well even though he is the primary driver of the car, he called for insurance and they won’t give him is own policy because my name is first on the title. Bogus.

    My dad has been trying to sort it out, and when I brought up the idea of just marrying legally to fix this, he wasn’t at all opposed. I love my parents, so practical ๐Ÿ™‚ I would still do the wedding and wait to move in, but legally it’d be legit.

     

    anyways that’s my story ๐Ÿ™‚ I think you should get married and keep it a nice little secret. Though you may have to inform your officiant.

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