Post # 1
My fiance and my mother had problems over two years ago, they don’t get along at all. It has been really hard on me since I have been with him 6 years and we have a 4 year old son. Last year we talked about a wedding for May 2016, the one problem is that he is asking me not to invite my mother to the ceremony. Please help!! I really don’t want to do that, I love my mother, she hasn’t been the best mother to me but I still don’t want to leave her out of such an important day in my life. Any other suggestions? a wedding without a ceremony and reception?
Post # 2
He’s being completely unreasonable. Of course you want your mother there. He’s overstepping the line even voicing the idea that she doesn’t come.
I’d get him to settle his differences with your mother before the wedding. I don’t know what the problem was but if you have continued to have a good relationship with your mother then it sounds as though his pride has been bruised. That’s not a good reason to ask the love of your life to reject a parent.
Post # 3
I agree that he should try to settle his differences with your mom before the wedding. But if you think that it will only make things worse, then you should just ask that the two of them keep their distance and don’t pay any mind to the other. I was not on speaking terms with my Father-In-Law on the day of my wedding because of the way he humiliated my mother the day before, but we managed to get through the day without me tearing into him about what a jerk he was.
I don’t like that your Fiance has asked you not to invite your mother. That kinda rubs me the wrong way. They may not get along but that’s a pretty serious request, and if you were to do that YOU would have to live with it for the rest of your life.
Post # 4
Ask him how he would feel, if some day in the future, your son was engaged to someone who wanted him not to invite your Fiance to their wedding.