(Closed) What do I do about a maid of honor with attitude

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Wow. It seems like she is really going through something. What is her life like…is she single? Married?

Have you been doing things with her outside of wedding planning? Do you call her and talk to her about her own life or has it just been wedding related stuff?

I had issues just like that with a Bridesmaid or Best Man who has fought me about every step of the way. Turns out that she is just really unhappy with her life right now and seeing another friend’s wedding planning and happiness is “making her more depressed” that she is alone. She ended up projecting that on me unintentionally even though I haven’t done anything to her. Once we had a talk and I was sympathetic and lent an ear and a shoulder to cry on, she snapped out of it.

Sometimes weddings make chicks go a little cookoo. I would maybe let her cool off a little bit and then meet up with her for lunch or coffee and ask her if she is okay. Sometimes you just have to swallow your pride and smooth things over for the sake of your friendship…even if the other person is in the wrong.

Post # 4
591 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - St. Philip Catholic Church/Arcadia Brewing Co.

Maybe she is just acting out because she is afraid of losing you or something, after the wedding. As far as the shoe comments go I have no idea whether she wants you to care about her shoes or not! Her comments a quite confusing. Maybe a face to face chat will sort it out?

On other thought, maybe she is sad that you haven’t asked her to do more? Maybe she feels slighted because you haven’t involved her in the planning. Not saying that is logical or an excuse for her to be rude, but maybe it explains her actions?

Best of luck! and remember a wedding is not worth losing a friend over. Find out what is really bothering her if you can!

Post # 5
788 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

It sounds like she has some other issues going on that might not relate at all to the wedding, but she’s using the wedding as a means to lash out. It’s not cool of her to do that, especially because it does sound like you’ve given her a lot of room to add her own style into her role as Maid/Matron of Honor. I think a sitdown talk is in order, face to face.

Post # 6
2281 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Weddings can bring out the absolute worst in people. Is she jealous of the attention being a bride is bringing you? Even totally rational people who love us can experience some ugly envy. Is it possible she’s feeling left behind by your getting married? Make sure she knows how important she is to you.

Post # 9
1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would just nicely ask her what she wants to do for the wedding and just let her know you appreciate her. Nicely tell her you can’t read her mind. One day should’nt ruin a lifelong friendship.

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