Post # 1
OK so a few years ago I told my FI’s sister I wanted her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. She’s a few years older than me and we’re super close. At the time I told her I wanted her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor, I had kind of lost touch with my close girlfriends so I really had no other friends. Now that I’m engaged and wedding planning, I am closer again with my girlfriends that I grew up with. I still want FI’s sister to be my Maid/Matron of Honor because she knows both me and Fiance very well, plus it makes it easier so I don’t have to choose between 4 of my best friends who all have special meanings to me. The problem now is that my FI’s sister moved to MD (I’m from NY) so how is she going to be able to go with me dress shopping, help plan the bridal shower, do all the things MOH’s do? My mom wants someone that can help her plan things, not someone who’s gonna be in another state.
So my question is, what do I do? Should I just have no MOH? Should I have her be the Maid/Matron of Honor but have my 4 bridesmaids take over her role when she’s not here? Should I have all of them be MOH’s and have different tasks? How many of you have been in similar situations and how did you handle it?? Thanks girls!
Post # 3
My sister and Maid/Matron of Honor was on an extended “vacation” from the weekend after I got engaged to a month prior to our wedding. My other bridesmaids were more than helpful in stepping up.
Post # 4
She can still be a MOH! A mature, responsible friend would gladly help you out even without the “MOH” title. It’s all really up to you.
I have no bridesmaids but my friends have come to every appointment with me and the one girl is planning my bachlorette.
It’s really about what you find appropraite and what you are comfortable with, but I think if she means that much to you then you should absolutely let her keep her title and find help elsewhere. Best of luck!
Post # 5
I’m not having one, but I do have a friend who I ask her opinion on stuff. I also hope to grab her and get her to go shopping with for some stuff.
I’d say ask your FI’s sister and see what she thinks. If it’s mainly calling and setting up stuff, then that would work even long distance (depending on her calling plan, of course!). Talk it out with her and THEN decide where to go on stuff. After all, you have already asked and it would be a good idea to let her know what your mom is wanting.
If it were me, I’d want to know what your mom was wanting in the ways of help and I’d be pretty miffed if you picked someone else after asking me.