Post # 1
I don’t know why I am stressing out about this already since it’s still many months away, but I’m not really sure what to do.
My Maid/Matron of Honor and bridesmaids have recently started talking about planning my bachelorette party. Most of them live in other parts of the country, so they were all trying to find a day where they could all travel to Chicago (where I live). We decided to do it on the same day as my wedding shower so that my bridesmaids didn’t have to spend the money to travel more than once before the wedding. I thought this was a great idea.
My Maid/Matron of Honor asked what I would like to do for my bachelorette party. A few of my bridesmaids and I know eachother from dance classes when we were in high school so I thought it would be a lot of fun to go out to the bars and go dancing! I don’t go out too often but I figured this would be the perfect time to do it as a “last fling before the ring.” I also figured this would work well with having the wedding shower during the day and then leaving from there to go out for the night. Everybody was super onboard with the idea except for my Future Sister-In-Law. She doesn’t drink, doesn’t go to bars, doesn’t like to stay up late, etc. which I totally respect. Trying to make sure she was included, my Maid/Matron of Honor thought about possibly doing something a little more tame like a brewery or winery tour which I also thought would be a blast… until I remembered that again, my FSIL doesn’t drink.
I’m struggling trying to find something to do that all of my bridesmaids will enjoy. I’m sure I would be happy with a low-key night in… but at the same time, I want to go out! Have a big night out on the town! I want to do something a little more exciting that what I do every day. I also thought of a spa day, but since we are going to mostly be restricted to the night since the wedding shower will be earlier that day, I realized that may not work.
So, what do I do? Give in and do a low-key night in? Or do we do what I want to do and just hope that my Future Sister-In-Law gets onboard and comes with? (OR if any of you Bees have any suggestions of an activity we could do, that would be great! Obviously these are just initial planning stages so I’m sure there are activities I haven’t thought of.)
Post # 2
This is your bachelorette party. You should do what you want. If you want to go out, then you should. When she gets married (or if she already is) then she can have/did have a bachelorette party that suits her.
Maybe she could join you for dinner and then head home if she doesn’t feel like going out to bars?
Post # 3
- Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club
How late in the day is your shower? Maybe you could do something like a fun bowling alley or something that she can join and then go out drinking and dancing and she can leave after bowling. If there’s not enough time, then she can either suck it up, or not go. It’s your party, so focus on what YOU want to do!
Post # 4
This may not be for everyone, but for mine we went to a restaurant in town, so anyone could drink if they want, then went around the corner to an escape room. (we got out!) It was super fun and everyone seemed to get involved. Went to the hotel after and played cards against humanity til people wanted to go to sleep. There was alcohol but not everyone had to participate. It was low key enough, but that doesn’t sound like what you’d prefer. Honestly, do what you really want, and you could totally just go out to dinner with her separately to celebrate becoming family before the wedding 🙂
Post # 5
You could do the night in stages. Like, go get manicures, go have dinner somewhere, then go to the club/bar and dance. FSIL can do the first two, and now out for the last.
Post # 6
could you maybe start your night with an early dinner and a fun evening class (maybe something dance related, like a burlesque dance, or belly dancing…) before going bar hoping? If your SIL wants to bail after the class and call it a night, it’s her choice, but you can still include her and have the evening you envision
Post # 7
I don’t drink/barhop/have fun and I have been to many bar hopping, get wasted, bachelorette parties. It’s called being a team player! She can come and hang out for a while and leave when she’s ready. I wouldn’t change your plans around her, personally.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2016 - Painswick Church and the Falcon Hotel
Do whatever you want to do! She doesn’t have to go if she doesn’t want to, she can’t expect you to stay in just because she doesn’t like staying out late she can do it for one night surely and drink soft drinks if she chooses
Post # 9
This party is about you! While it’s very considerate of you to try to accommodate everyone it’s ultimately your night and she can suck it up and choose to be there even if it’s not her preferred choice of activity
Post # 10
This party is about you! While it’s very considerate of you to try to accommodate everyone it’s ULTIMATELY your night and she can suck it up and choose to be there even if it’s not her preferred choice of activity