(Closed) What do I do about this work dilemma? Teachers,I could especially use your input

posted 7 years ago in Career
  • poll: What should I do about this coaster dilemma?
    Come up with some excuse and don't go on the trip. : (3 votes)
    14 %
    Go on the trip, but refuse to ride the coaster even if it makes you look kind of rude. : (15 votes)
    68 %
    Suck it up and ride it. : (2 votes)
    9 %
    Other (explain below) : (2 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I’m confused….how is going on a roller coaster ride “team building”? You’re all scared to death together or something? If it were me, I’d go and just not go on the ride. I don’t think it will make you look like you can’t control yourself. Before I got comfortable on roller coasters, I would always just decline and say they gave me a headache. I don’t think you have to say you are very anxious, I think you can just say they make you sick or just that you aren’t comfortable on them.

    Post # 4
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    963 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    You are not a wimp!  You need to talk to her about this.  My hubby has extreme anxiety and fear of heights and without xanax, he can’t get on a plane or go to the top floor of a building. I have pushed him to try some things to “test” his limits, but I would NEVER expect him to get on a roller coaster like that.  NEVER.  That’s cruel.

    Look, we all have fears. Some are “irrational” – that doen’t make them not real though.  Please explain this to her.  You will watch everyone’s purses or take pictures from the side, but it is not worth the agony you will have to go through to get on that coaster.

    Post # 5
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    46667 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    My concern is that a varsity coach should not be intimidating anyone into doing something they don’t want to do, in the guise of a “team buiding exercise”.

    There could be students who are also having anxiety at the thought of what they are being pressured to do.

    I would have a talk with the coach and say that having given it some thought, you don’t think this is a good idea and can’t , in good conscience, participate. Is there an alternative team building exercise you could suggest?

    Post # 8
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    2907 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @brideatbeach:Honestly, you being scared in front of your team is not going to help them have faith in you when your adminstration already put you at a disadvantage by coaching a team you’ve never coached!
    Do whatever it takes to not ride the coasters–it may be easiest to skip altogether, but you could also go, and hold peoples’ stuff on the rides.

     

    You know there are lots of health factors that say you can’t ride– previous back or neck injury, pregnancy, being prone to migraines.

    Just say your doctor says it is not recommended for you to ride. Doesn’t matter that it’s not recommended due to anxiety or something else–they do not need to know what your health issues are.

    Post # 9
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    2538 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    I think you do have to go on the trip because the trip is a team trip, but if you are scared, be honest!  You get get all kinds of different reactions from laughing to understanding to major peer pressure, but I think no matter what it’s worth it to be honest.  I would think most coaches of girls sports would be pretty understanding people.  You are an adult and you DO NOT have to go on a roller coaster that you don’t want to go on!  Good luck.

    (I teach HS and have coached soccer for 5 years…)

    Post # 11
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    46667 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @brideatbeach: I encourage you to suck up the courage and speak up. How can we ever expect our young women to speak up against things that are wrong, if their teacher can’t?

    Post # 14
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    3220 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I would go on the trip but not ride the ride.  There may be some girls who don’t want to ride and you can always hold purses/sunglasses/etc.  I think the whole day will be a great team-building thing, so I would encourage you to try to go to the park, but I think having to ride a particular ride isn’t necessary.

    Post # 15
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    2232 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I can’t do rollercoasters either. I went 2 years ago on one because I waited the hour in line with everyone and they convinced me it wouldn’t be that bad (it had been years since I had gone before that). Not a good idea. I think my friends all know now never to ask me again, I was basically crying on the ride because I was so terrified. 

    I say go because that’s the part that is team building, spending the day with everyone and getting to know them. Talk to the varsity coach and tell her that you’re coming but won’t be riding the coaster because they make you sick/previous injury/your doctor advised you not. 

    Post # 16
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    7689 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    @brideatbeach:

    I agree that you should go on the trip, but agree that you should feel free to state they make you sick/previous injury/ the doctor advised you not to. 

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