(Closed) What do I do???? Help????

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Where do you keep it when you don’t wear it?  A jewelry box?  Why don’t you just put it in there and I’m sure he’ll know it’s there or ask you about it.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

I think the box next to his bed would work out just fine!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Hmm.. I second HotChild – if you take it off in the shower, just leave it where you normally do and don’t say anything. My FH didn’t trade my ring in – but he knew where I kept my one fancy ring and swiped it secretly for sizing. Turns out I wore that ring on my middle finger, but I appreciated the attempt.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

ModernDaisy: My fiance did the same thing haha.  Except he swiped some random cheap H&M cocktail ring that I wore out to the bar and such.  I was so shocked when my engagement ring fit perfectly!

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper

I would tie a big ribbon bow around it (seriously, huge floppy bow on little tiny ring) and leave it on his pillow, but I’m not known for my subtlty 🙂 (or my spelling)

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I would do what HotChild mentioned, if not the his or even your bedside is perfectly fine.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Lol I like the bow idea… not so subtle is how we have to play it because boyfriend is pretty (self-admittedly) dense sometimes!

Post # 11
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Worker bee

Why not just hand it to him at dinner?  Tell him you want him to hold onto it “for safe keeping”.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Well my Fiance was going to trade in another ring for my e-ring and he didn’t he just went ahead and got the ring I wanted at the store it was at.  So you just don’t know what they end up doing.  My Fiance felt like it was strange to trade in another ring on an e-ring he said he’d trade it in on say a birthday present one day.  Whatever makes him more comfy works for me.

So I would just take the ring off and leave it where you do when not wearing it.  If he takes it fine if not that’s okay too.  Don’t freak out he may just have decided that he doesn’t need to trade it in any more.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Hang in there.  Focus on the two of you and why you’re together.  It will happen when it happens and it will be a really exciting day.  Don’t get too down.

 

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper

Don’t doubt yourself!!!  The night before Fiance proposed, I went into this tailspin, believing that he didn’t even want to be with me (because he hadn’t propose).  

Give your man some credit and keep wearing the ring as usual.  Maybe he figured out another plan or maybe he’ll ask you for it, when it’s time to swap.  It sounds like you two have already talked about a game plan for how to pay for the ring (ie: trading in your ring) – is that the case? (or did you hear from a mutual friend).

I’d say – DON’T leave the ring by the bed.  He’ll think it’s odd, since you haven’t taken it off.  If he needs it, he’ll ask for it.

Second, stop talking to people about it.  It will just make you feel worse, if it doesn’t happen on your birthday.  And, TRUST ME, when I say this.  When it DOES happen, all this waiting and wondering will all seem so distant.  Focus 110% of your waiting/worrying energy on the relationship and on doing things to show your guy you love him.  I had submerge myself in a variety of things, so I didn’t go absolutely batty with the wondering.

Hang in there!! 

Post # 16
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Busy bee

Don’t worry, it will happen!  Why don’t you talk to him and give him the ring?  Tell him that he should hold onto it because you want to be surprised by the proposal. After that, try not to think about it too much.  I know, easier said than done.

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