- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
Ok so here it goes: My extended family always has a big bbq and family get together for the 4th of July, we’re celebrating it early this year on Saturday, my husbands family also does a simmilar thing and they’re celebrating on the 3rd. However, his family all of his brothers, mom and family friends are going to their family friend’s lake house 3 hours away Saturday after he gest off work at 2 and all day Sunday. My husband really wants to go there, and doesn’t want to go to my families 4th of July BBQ, he feels really bad missing going to the lake, and I can’t tell him no because I don’t want him to feel left out and go with me when it’s obvious he’d rather be somewhere else, so I don’t really know what to do.
Do I let him go to the lake house with his family and friends, have him come with me even though he’d really rather be with his friends and family, or do I skip my families 4th and go with him to the lake house even though we won’t see my family again till either Nov or Dec. I just don’t know what to do and want someone to tell me what to do. I tried talking to him about it, and he keeps saying he’ll do whatever I want him to do, but that’s not a good answer because I know he’ll resent me for making him choose my family over his, especially since he’s missed a couple other family things such as going to the lake before this because he had to work, and i’ll feel like the “bad guy” once again because i’m always the one who has to put the foot down and say no sometimes. Any advice or suggestions.