Post # 1
My aunt is remarried and she has a step son and daughter who lives several states away. I am not close with them at all. I’ve only seen them a few times and we really don’t have a relationship. However I am very close with my aunt. So my aunt has been hinting around asking if they are invited to the wedding. Originally they were off of our list but I feel like my aunt is going to be really angry if they aren’t invited. So should I invite them hoping they don’t come or not invite them and create family drama? Ugh this is the worst part of wedding planning.
Post # 2
What would inviting them cause family drama?
Post # 3
If you can afford it I would err on the side of inclusion and invite them.
Post # 4
Are your other cousins invited? If so, I would say they probably should be invited. (But this is coming from someone who’s invited one aunt and not any of the others, so take it with a grain of salt, lol.)
Post # 5
You don’t care to see them? Don’t invite them, It’s simple. It’s your wedding, you decide who’s invited and who’s not. I didn’t invite quite a few relatives on my stepmother’s side because they don’t play any major role in my life. Why should you see people who don’t matter? Weddings are too expensive to tolerate this bs.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2016 - Volunteer Park and the Stimson-Green Mansion
How long has your aunt been remarried/how long have you known your step-cousins? If you didn’t invite them, do you think she would decide not to come?
Post # 7
yes all my other first cousins are invited.
some others in my family have excluded her step children from things and it has really irritated my aunt because they try to be a blended family and not use “step” mother or “step” father.
Post # 8
thanks Ive had this attitude toward everyone else I don’t want to invite but I am afraid of the drama because of past issues.
they’ve been married for over ten years. I’m not sure if she would attend or not. I honestly think they just want to know they have the option to attend and that I included them.
Post # 10
If they have been married for over ten years, all the other first cousins are invited, and you already know the aunt with whom you are very close is very sensitive about her stepchildren being excluded from other family events and would be hurt if you didn’t invite them–then yes, I would invite them.
Post # 11
They have been her children, your cousins, for ten years. All of your other cousins are invited. I wouldn’t exclude a cousin because they were adopted (and therefore not biologically my cousin). Therefore I wouldn’t exclude a cousin because they were a “step” cousin either. Invite them.
Post # 13
My Uncle’s third wife (I grew up with his first wife who tragically passed and their children) has two daughters, one of whom I’ve never met, the other I’ve met a couple of times, but wouldn’t say we were close by any stretch of the imagination. I invited them to our wedding, even though I don’t expect his step-daughter to invite me to her wedding next year (she inherited 30 step-cousins, I don’t blame her!). I would invite them, especially since they don’t seem to have SOs that you’d need to invite.
Post # 14
Your family excludes them from events?? Glad that doesn’t happen to my step kids or my kids. That are family and welcome on both sides. If the other cousins have been invited why shouldn’t they be?
Post # 15
most of the time it’s because they are so far away and they don’t show interest in keeping contact with us. The one just had a baby so I am sure they want to come and show it off. I haven’t seen either in about 8 years. I’m going to invite them both and give them the option to come.