(Closed) What do I do? Invite her or not invite her?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
9519 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

What would inviting them cause family drama?

Post # 3
2697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

If you can afford it I would err on the side of inclusion and invite them.

Post # 4
186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 10, 2016

Are your other cousins invited? If so, I would say they probably should be invited. (But this is coming from someone who’s invited one aunt and not any of the others, so take it with a grain of salt, lol.)

Post # 5
2251 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

You don’t care to see them? Don’t invite them,  It’s simple.  It’s your wedding,  you decide who’s invited and who’s not.  I didn’t invite quite a few relatives on my stepmother’s side because they don’t play any major role in my life.  Why should you see people who don’t matter?  Weddings are too  expensive to tolerate this bs.

Post # 6
58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2016 - Volunteer Park and the Stimson-Green Mansion

How long has your aunt been remarried/how long have you known your step-cousins? If you didn’t invite them, do you think she would decide not to come?

Post # 9
9519 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Yes, invite them

Post # 10
7853 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

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hollysmith92:  If they have been married for over ten years, all the other first cousins are invited, and you already know the aunt with whom you are very close is very sensitive about her stepchildren being excluded from other family events and would be hurt if you didn’t invite them–then yes, I would invite them. 

Post # 11
2403 posts
Buzzing bee

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hollysmith92:  They have been her children, your cousins, for ten years. All of your other cousins are invited. I wouldn’t exclude a cousin because they were adopted (and therefore not biologically my cousin). Therefore I wouldn’t exclude a cousin because they were a “step” cousin either. Invite them.

Post # 13
5038 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2016

My Uncle’s third wife (I grew up with his first wife who tragically passed and their children) has two daughters, one of whom I’ve never met, the other I’ve met a couple of times, but wouldn’t say we were close by any stretch of the imagination.  I invited them to our wedding, even though I don’t expect his step-daughter to invite me to her wedding next year (she inherited 30 step-cousins, I don’t blame her!). I would invite them, especially since they don’t seem to have SOs that you’d need to invite.


  • This reply was modified 5 years, 3 months ago by missinthecity.
Post # 14
1832 posts
Buzzing bee

Your family excludes them from events?? Glad that doesn’t happen to my step kids or my kids. That are family and welcome on both sides.  If the other cousins have been invited why shouldn’t they be?

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