(Closed) What do I do? My mother stole the rehearsal dinner invites and started inviting.

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I would tell your mother that she was responsible for paying for their part. If she can’t pay for all of it, then she pays for as much as she can and you and Fiance need to pay the rest. I can’t believe she did that! How RUDE and tacky!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

What. WHAT?! What does your mother have to say for herself? I would insist she personally pay for the extra guests. Sorry to sound harsh, but seriously, you don’t just add to people’s guest list!

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Not cool! I agree that your mother should pay for the extra guests. Hopefully your Fiance understand you were unaware of this. What and underhanded thing for your mother to do! Did you talk to her about it?

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

yikes… are these people invited to the wedding at least.

i would be on the phone immediately to talk to my mother – an extra 17 people is alot of people!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Holy cow. Mom better break out her checkbook! That is absolutely rude. Really, this sucks, but you shouldn’t put this burden on your inlaws. If Mom won’t pay and you can’t afford the extras, I think you have to call all 17 people and explain the situation.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Plus, how exactly did she steal them? Thats crazy.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

OMG your Rehearsal Dinner is bigger than my wedding!! 🙂

i’m glad to hear your Father-In-Law are so understanding. hope it all works out. sounds like your mum is going through a really rough time.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Kudos to your FIL’s for being so benevolent about the add-ons. They deserve a kick ass thank you gift! Although, despite them being totally okay with 17 more people I would still someone try and donate whatever money you or your mother could to help with the costs. 80 people….holy guac…..

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Is there anyone that she sent an invite to that you can uninvite?  I know that if my mom did something this nuts, it wouldn’t be that hard to call people up and explain the confusion and write it off as when dealing with your grandmother, the lines of communication broke down and there were misunderstandings, etc. etc. etc. 

I think that the guests might be very understanding.  

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