(Closed) What do I do now?

posted 3 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
178 posts
Blushing bee

Get a budget. Make a list what you and your SO wish for, sort it by importance, then find out what each would cost. Compromise as long as you suit your budget.

Post # 3
2057 posts
Buzzing bee

^ True. Try the Lady Marry app if you’re feeling overwhelmed. 

Post # 4
5 posts
  • Wedding: December 2016

The first thing we decided was the time of year we wanted. Then we chose the date that was available with the church and based everything around that. The theme of the wedding can be determined by the season you are in.  A summer vs winter wedding have different looks. Know your budget, because everything you pick is determined by that. Then we just went down the list, caterer, dj, etc one by one and booked them. As for staying organized, I never figured out how to do that. I made a binder and printed everything we booked with the deposits and when the total is due. Enjoy the process, it all comes together. 

Post # 5
7199 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

rach17 :  For me the main thing was being able to invite all the people that were important to us. So we started with the guest list, took a guess at what we could afford over all and then I plugged that budget into Wedding Wire’s budget tool. It auto-fills sections so you get an idea of what you can put toward venue, dress, food, etc. Clear out all the things you don’t want and choose the “redistribute” option, and you have a good idea to go from. 

Post # 6
388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: Rydges Hotel

Setting up a realistic budget is a good start. Go to wedding shows to get an idea of what kind of wedding you want, and how much it will cost you. You will also be able to get some discounts and special offers if you do it through the show. 

Post # 7
423 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Usually once you determine a guest list/numbers and decide on a date the budget will become the next important thing, once the budget is set you can decide on venue etc, relax and enjoy and definitely get a wedding planner(diary type book)  and write down everything 🙂

Post # 8
506 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Definitely start with your guest list/count and set a budget.  That is step one before you do anything else.  Setting the time of year is important too but I think that that comes after you set a budget so you can figure out what time of year works better for you.  For example, summer weddings tend to be the most popular and thus more expensive. 

Also I suggest signing up for weddingwire or TheKnot.  Both let you put in your budget amount and gives you an idea of how much you should spend in each category.  It’s a great starting point and from there you can decide what’s most and least important and adjust numbers.

Post # 9
71 posts
Worker bee


1. Relax and enjoy this special time in your life, this will never come along again! 

2. Pick a date. 

3. Set a budget. 

Then start using tools like the The Knot and other wedding websites. Take your time and have fun. 

Post # 10
1172 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

We just started planning as well! It is a bit overwhelming!

We started with putting together our guest list, then started looking at venues to accommodate that size. Based on what we’re finding with venues, we are going to shape our budget and then go from there. I started pinning a ton of decor ideas on Pinterest last night for color schemes, flowers, etc.

Post # 11
7103 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012


A lot of people will say to set a budget first, but as a wedding vendor myself I actually suggest sitting down and creating your ideal guest list first, then think about budget. Setting a budget is great, but if you have no idea how many people you have you have no idea how far your budget will go. More often than not when people make their guest list they see that they either need to up the budget, or pair down the list.

From there you need to research the kind of venue you want, and start contacting them for pricing and availability. Once you’ve got a date & venue set, the rest can start to fall into place.

Post # 12
2394 posts
Buzzing bee

First, work out your budget. 

Then pick three things that are the most important to you (guest list, food, location or photography, dress, time of year – whatever) and then start creating a budget around those three things. 

If your three important things are guest list, dress, and time of year (for example), you would start by building your ideal guest list. Let’s say you have 150 people. You know that you’re going to spend, say, 30% of your overall budget feeding your guests, so you would want to figure out how much money per head that comes out to. Once you have that, you can start looking at venues that are within your budget. 

Good luck OP, and enjoy this time!

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