(Closed) What do I do now? Wedding cancelled.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Of course it sucks! But you were right, you will be fine being alone- it’ll just take some time. Whomever was going to stand up for you, should still be standing up for you- albeit in a much different way. You need them, let them be there for you.

Post # 4
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1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Im so sorry to hear this for you. Whatever wedding stuff you have , try and sell it and make some of your money back. As far as what he owes you, do what you can to get that back as well……HUGS

 

Post # 5
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7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Don’t go back! He sounds like a total ass. Someone who cancels a wedding, for not a great reason, he asked you to marry him the way you are and expecting you to change now is well…stupid. Stand your ground. The money you lose isn’t as much as what you would suffer and lose in a divorce.

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Thankfully this got worked out before a marriage, which would have been a mess!

I’m sorry you are going through this! Keep your head up and stay strong. Things will work out financially and your ex Fiance will reap what he has sewn.

Post # 7
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2548 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m really sorry your ex is such a jerk. It does suck to be alone, but you will be FAR better off in the long run. You are right, you deserve to be with someone who accepts you for who you are, not try to change you. What a loser that guy is. There is someone out there for you, who will love everything about you, and not want to change or mold you into a person they want you to be. Kudos to you for being brave enough to tell him to “suck it” so to speak. Time will pass, and this will be just another jerk in the past.

I would probably call him though, and just tell him you want your money back. Did he lose any money for the wedding also? If not, ask him if he would reimburse you for some of the lost money. He kind of should.

Goodluck, and take care!!!!

Post # 8
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Worker bee

“Not up for discussion” ? Does he think you are a toddler or something? I think you are doing 100% the right thing. Is the money he owes you something that small claims court can deal with?

Post # 9
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5891 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

fyi, if he called it off, and you didn’t cheat or anything like that, YOU get to keep the ring.

Post # 10
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Honey bee

This is what you do now

1) You remind yourself that we all have faults and we all can work to be better, that includes that ex of yours, and you do not need him to be happy.

2) You surround yourself with friends and family that supports you.

3) You wallow and curl up on the couch for the weekend and watch movies and drink wine

4) Next week you start doing what YOU want to do with your time. Join a new club, go out with friends, work on a project

5) Attempt to sell what you can to recoup some of your money that you have spent. Try craigslist, ebay, weddingbee classifieds etc.

6) remind yourself that any money you may not get back is OK, because you got of cheap. You would have been more financially invested as well as legally and emotionally invested if you had gotten married and had to divorce.

Post # 11
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113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Be glad that this wedding is cancelled (even though it sucks and I am sorry about that). Let the money be lost if you’re not up for a fight, and just be thankful you can start moving on with your life… every step you take, you are one step closer to the right person. Best wishes & sorry again.

Post # 13
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1566 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Sorry, but he sounds like an ASS.  You will look back on this one day and thank your lucky stars you did not marry him.  There is an amazing man out there for you…you just haven’t found him yet!  ((hugs))

Post # 14
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5891 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

@rubyred605: according to that, only 8 states follow that rule though.

Post # 16
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385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

In your post you asked – What do I do now?  Be good to yourself, be good to others and exercise.  Went through an ugly divorce and in my divorce recovery class that is the advice (in a nut shell) they gave us.  Allow your self to do things you could never do with him.  I love to dance, the ex didn’t.  I took dance lesson and loved it!!  Be good to others, this sounds kind of stange but if you are feeling bad being around other who are in worse shape helps, it makes you have purpose and feel needed.  I voluneered at a food bank and a home for hanidcapped people.  Exercise, you don’t need to start lifting weights (unless you want to) but just a walk in the evenings after work helps.  Excerise helps the brain release the endorfins that tell us we are happy.  The pain of a break up will go away eventually, but a bad marriage is hard to live with.  Be strong and know that people care.  You are going to be fine!!!

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