(Closed) What do I do when I come home from the honeymoon?

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

You need to change your name first with eith the SSA or the DMV, depending on your state.  Then once you have the new license, you can go and change your name everywhere else.

Post # 4
1774 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

It seems like there are a million post-wedding things to do.  I got home, our house was a mess, and it was rough for a little bit.  Our first priorities were to take care of health insurance and fix the messed-up marriage license. I am self-employed so mine sucked and was expensive, while FH’s is cheap and good since if you don’t do it within 30 days of the wedding, you have to wait until open enrollment.

Other important things we did:

got long-term birth control figured out (as I said above, my health insurance sucked and I would have had to pay full price for my IUD- instead, I took the pill until I was on his insurance)

get FH moved in

get rid of duplicate stuff

added FH to my car insurance (I got a refund on my premium, yea for the marriage discount)

name change- go to Social security, then DMV

If you’re combining finances: adding each other to ban accounts, credit cards, etc.  (some I did at the same time as my name change which made it easier)

If you’re combining finances: (optional but recommended) set up a budget and figure out how you will manage money.  we use mint.com, which tracks everything and even alerts you when a fee is charged to your credit card, you get near your credit limit, etc.  And it’s free!

unwrapped the gifts and found homes for them

thank yous

unpacked honeymoon stuff

cleaned the house (the week of the wedding, I was sick and my family was awful, something had to give)

some people have to pick their wedding prints by a deadline- our photographer rocked, he just gave the CDs with all the pics and we can print them whenever we want

wedding dress preservation or sell the dress

sell any wedding stuff (I’m still working on this one)

divy up household chores

That’s all I can think of off the top of my head.  Good luck, feel free to ask if you have any questions, and congrats!



Post # 5
3871 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think I changed my name with the SSA first because in order to change my name at work, I had to get that going.  Plus, I needed to change my health insurance to married, so I could officially insure my husband.  For me the SSA name change, was fairly easy for me.  Then I went over the the dmv.  I would check the website for ssa and dmv to make sure you bring the right things.  I know i needed my old drivers license, marriage license, an extra photo id (just in case)  I brought my old ss card but its not a good idea to carry your ss card with you.  So as long as you know the number, I don’t think you need the card. 

Those are the big ones.  Oh car insurance, health insurance if it not connected to your job. 

Uhh, I got a lot of name changing done within one or two months of getting married.  Everything else, required me to call during EST (I live on the west coast) so those things where i need to set aside time to call them during  lunchtime, haven’t been done.  hehe I got the major ones out of the way.

Mine whole name changing thing was a bit more difficult because I changed my first name officially to my nick name, so I had to go to court to do that. It took a bit more time and effort and plus a lot of my bills and creditors need to see the offical name change court document.  It is probably easier because you are just changing your last name.

ETA: Actually, sorry, forget what I just all told you.  I think I had more paperwork with the DMV and SSA because i changed my name completely. 

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