Post # 1
She desperately wants to be a part of my wedding, but I don’t know what to do with her. She is hardly old enough to be a bridesmaid, too old to be the flower girl, and I really don’t want to have a Jr. Bridesmaid. Are there any other major roles she could fill?
Post # 3
Could you have her read something? Does she play and instrument or sing? What if you had her be your “point person” for the day? She could help facilitate things for you (I mean, as much as a 10 year old can) and would probably love to feel like you need her.
Post # 4
I don’t see why she’s told old to be a flower girl. My niece is 9 and will be my flower girl. She really wanted to be in the wedding, too.
Post # 5
What would *she* like to do? Does she feel like she’s too big/grown up to be a flower girl, or too young to be a bridesmaid?
I guess it kind of depends on your relationship with your sister, but, if it were me, I would say that her feeling included was more important than social conventions about age limits on roles in the wedding. If she genuinely felt like she was too big to be a flower girl but too young to be a bridesmaid, I’d ask her if she’d like to be a candlelighter or do a reading, etc.
Post # 6
@hyperJulie: Yeah, my eight and a half year old niece (at time of the wedding) is going to be one of my flower girls.
Just have her walk down the aisle in a pretty dress, carrying some flowers. You don’t need to have a specific NAME for what she does. All she probably wants is a pretty dress and to be included.
Post # 7
Commenting so I can follow. I have two little cousins whom I am very close to, and they are currently 7 and 9. I’d love for them to be a part of my day too. Look forward to seeing more suggestions on this thread!
Post # 8
Yeah….flower girl I guess would be ok. Is there a better name I could call it? Like a more “grown up” title?
Post # 9
Would she be the only flower girl? If there are other, littler ones, you could make her the Head/Chief/Senior/Captain flower girl and give her the job of being in charge of the littler ones …
Post # 10
@steferz91: Why do you need a title? Are you listing all the people in the wedding on a program?
Post # 11
Okay well I was thinking of the word attendant. If you’re going to call your bridesmaids “bridesmaids” is your program, then you can use the word attendant for your sister.
Maid of Honor ~ Georgiana Lopez
Bridesmaids ~ Freedom Sparks, Abigail Gallant, Mississippi Gray, and Celeste McFadden
Attendant ~ Hannah Steferz
Damn those are good names.
Post # 12
What you could do is have her carry one of the signs that say “Here comes the bride” or something clever and cute like that. It’s somewhere inbetween flower girl and bridesmaid and plus, it gives her a role. I would def. not exclude her from the wedding though. I wouldn’t want to grow up thinking I had no part in my older sisters wedding! 🙁