(Closed) A 'Conditional' RSVP? – What do I do with this one?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
612 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

and Aunt & Uncle would be a yes. If they don’t show up, they don’t show up.  If it doesn’t happen with them, it will happen with someone else


Post # 18
3389 posts
Sugar bee



“You are three months behind with your mortgage payments, I’m afraid we’ll have to melt your igloo.”

Yes, we live in igloos! LOL

Post # 19
1953 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@happyface:  I know right, I’m exactly a year out from my wedding, and today it’s rainy  as heck, I hope next year I get a warm day.



Post # 20
1094 posts
Bumble bee

In a perfect world, this would be a job for the “Aunt Brigade”. You would mention the issue to a close female friend or relative with a spare room. She would then phone your aunt to invite them to come down a day or two early, perhaps on the luxury commuter bus (Red Arrow in Alberta) or train (VIA in eastern Canada, Pacific Great , offering to pick them up at the station and to squire them around while in town. This is a social duty in a tight-knit socially sophisticated community, and the designated hostess considers it an honour.

Some communities still accept these duties and have these support systems, even in the twenty-first century. You’re very lucky if you have these resources so if you do, make sure to use them, and to show gratitude for them! Nothing clamps off other people’s generous hospitality, as the refusal to use and appreciate it! So drop some heavy hints and see if any of your aunties or lady-friends step up. But if you are stuck with modern cocooned friends with only nuclear-family ties and no spare rooms, you may just have to accept the uncertainty. You can try finding some comfortable convenient hotel rooms, and suggest the train and a taxi to the hotel and to the venue; but alas many modern people do not see that the inconvenience they are imposing on their hostess far outweighs the cost of a hotel room. You have nailed it, when you recognize that you have to be gracious even when your guests are not.

Post # 21
113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@happyface:  lol, biggest worry for most brides in Vancouver is rain.  My brother got married mid July and it was pouring out. 

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