(Closed) what do I have to pay for?

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Just like for a traditional wedding there are no rules. I wouldn’t expect you to pay for all meals but many destination weddings are at AI resorts so daily meals are less of a concern, generally the bride would be concerned about dinner, brunch and rehearsal as is true in most standard weddings. Asking guests to come in so early may mean descretly helping some of your guests, especially those with families as that is a lot for a semi destination wedding. Keep within your budget then see what you to help those who mean the most to you, who you feel especially strong about them being present the while time. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Why ask everyone to come in so early? I don’t think you need to pay for anything beyond what you are already planning. I would maybe just inclife a little brochure with a list of local activities and perhaps spread word about the whale watching via word of mouth informally?

Post # 7
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You definitely don’t need to pay for the whale watching, I think it is appropriate to advertise it as an optional trip. We have been to several destination weddings that feature an optional golf tournament with a fee for guests who would like to participate. 

As for food, have you considered hosting a farewell brunch? That is the only meal I would consider paying for besides the rehearsal dinner and the wedding. People often treat destination weddings as a vacation and budget and plan accordingly. Another idea is you could have some of your guests rent houses off of vrbo, as opposed to staying in hotels, so they could cook meals if they wanted to save a bit. 

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

It depends on how far people are traveling imo.  If they are driving from within a few hours, or spending a few hundred to fly, maybe paying their own way isnt so bad.  But if you have a lot of international guest who are paying upwards of a grand or more for flights, then it’d be a nice gesture if you paid for a one day excursion like whale watching. 

ETA: But there are no rules to it. If they choose to come early, I think guests accept that there are added costs and certainly dont expect everything to be paid for the entire time.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We are doing something similar. We’re paying for a thursday night dinner for the bridal party only (because those are the only people we are MAKING come in on thursday), a welcome party (in place of the traditional rehearsal dinner) and the wedding. We’re offering an optional golf outing and boat tour that people who want to go will pay for. We are unsure of the brunch on sunday because it will be mother’s day and we havent’ quite figured that out yet.

I plan on printing out mini magazines to go in the welcome bags for guests. I’m going to contact local businesses and see if they will give me a coupons to include. 🙂

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We are paying for the reception and rehearsal dinner (FI’s parents hosting that and all guests invited) only. I sent out an activities list though and am coordinating golf and shopping excursions for anyone who wants to join, but we aren’t covering that. We are also setting up some times to meet up in certain areas of the resort. That doesn’t cost us anything (all inclusive) but it will give us a chance to introduce people.

For any wedding I’ve traveled to I didnt expect the couple to pick up the tab for anything except the reception, and the rehearsal if we had reason to be invited.

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